How To Tell If He Is Genuinely Interested And Wants A Committed Relationship

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Many of us believe in the idea that if a man genuinely likes you, they will talk to you.

However, is that true? When he comes to you and talks to you, does it mean he really likes you? The answer is: not necessary.

If a man reached out to you, it doesn't necessarily mean that he like you. He may just be an extrovert and outgoing person or making conversations as a friend. You thought he was flirting with you, but sometimes it's just a misunderstanding. For example, you might know this guy who is always enthusiastic about helping anyone and down for anything. You are only one of the people he is interacting with daily. You might also have received some "Wyd/What you up to" message from this other guy that he would carry a conversation with you for a message or two. These people would send out messages to multiple girls and have conversations with whoever responds to him.

However, another type of man is introverted and tends to be more passive in conversations even they like you or are interested in you.

Therefore, to tell if a man is genuinely interested in you or like you, the key indicator is their attitude towards you. You don't only look at how well they treat you, but also if the treatment is unique just for you.

The most magical aspect of love is that you feel like you are the most unique in front of him, and he treats you so. You can look at several factors to decide if he is genuinely interested in you and wants to pursue a committed relationship with you.

1. Time Investment

No one wastes time on something or someone they are not interested in. In the workplace, if you want to know if you have the chance to be promoted, find out if you can occupy your boss's valuable time. If you're going to tell if your client will make the deal happen, find out if they are willing to spend time learning the details of the project. It is the same when it comes to love. We all have 24 hours a day, and when a man spends a fair amount of his available time with you, he would not be able to spend the time with other women or hang out with his friends. You can tell that if you are his priority base on the percentage of the available time, he is willing to spend with you.

Of course, the time investment is a good indicator of his feeling towards you at an early stage of your relationship. If you'd like to understand where you stand, you can also look at the quality and character of the time he spends with you. For example, the time before bed is considered "casual time." During this period, we tend to read something unessential that helps us to sleep. If your man only talks to you at night, there's a high possibility that he is just bored and wanted you to kill time before bed.

2. Level of Attentiveness

Attentiveness is not easy to evaluate. At the beginning of your relationship, both people will behave attentively as a courtesy. Suppose a man shows that he's drifting around mentally or not paying attention to what you say. In that case, he might either be going through a significant change in life or having something of high priority. If not both, it means he is not that into you.

Usually, if you don't see each other, you tend to feel that he is very focused on you when you are together. If a person likes you and cares about you, he will pay attention to things you've mentioned to him, things you like, or places you want to visit. He will try to find out everything you like or dislike and find out if you will like him. Therefore, if the man you are talking to does not remember much of what you told him, it indicates that he ignored your conversation and is not really interested.

It is also important to note that when you evaluate his attention to you, base on the behavior instead of the appearance. Most of the man will have a hard time to notice the change of your nail color or outfit style.

3. Progression of the connection

Does he take initiation in moving this connection forward? The level of initiation a man takes in pushing a relationship ahead reveals their desire for intimacy in a relationship. With that being said, if this man is genuinely interested in you, after your date together or dinner, he will hope to move this connection further by holding hands, hugging, kissing, or more. Suppose you have dated this person for more than a month, and all you are doing is dine together or hang out platonically. In that case, he is not yet interested in progressing or move things forward with you.

However, he is also possible to be shy about it and does not have much experience romantically. In case you are wondering, you can release some signals that indicate your interest in him and observe his response. To show signals of interest, you can increase eye contact, subtle physical touch, or learning towards him when you are together when you are having a conversation. If you have release signals and is still not responding, it makes it pretty certain that he is not that interested yet.

How do you tell if a man is genuinely interested in you? Share with us in the comment below.

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