Home is Where the Heart Is

Kendra Hall


God wants us to have peace in our relationships. We achieve harmony when we conform to God’s will. We are called to love one another and that starts from within and expands throughout. We must be actively loving and display kindness to those in our homes before being focused on those outside of our home. Make sure you take care of home first. When we are out of alignment with God, we become blind to the hurt we are causing for ourselves and others. Ephesians 5:28 tells us, “In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.” This bible passage reminds me of my friend Cassie. My girl Cassie has been married to Michael for what seems like forever. I asked Cassie how she and Michael have stayed happily married so long, and she said the key was sacrifice.

When Carrie wakes up in the morning, she can hear God whispering tasks to do that will please Michael. The problem is Cassie does not always feel like doing these tasks. It has nothing to do with Michael and all to do with her wishing she could remain in bed a bit longer. Nonetheless, each morning she gets up early to show her love for her husband. Cassie calls this her rent due to God for her receiving the wonderous blessing of love. She irons Michael’s clothes, packs a hearty healthy vegan lunch (even on the weekends), she makes and brings slow-drip coffee to his bedside in his favorite mug, and even starts his shower so the bathroom is warm when he gets up. The easiest part of her morning is making Michael’s convenient breakfast smoothie ordered from Revive Superfoods.

Cassie understands the value of what she has at home, a loving and devoted husband and father. Michael is a prayer in the flesh for Cassie. Cassie demonstrates her love for Michael through words and actions. She honors God by listening to the small, still voice within, calling her to task.

In return, Michael always makes sure Cassie’s car is washed and maintained. He walks their golden retriever, Buddy, every evening. Michael does all the laundry. He gets the children ready for bed each night, always reading them an exciting bedtime story. He knows Cassie likes to go to sleep early so makes sure she is not disturbed while asleep.

Michael pays attention to what excites Cassie. He observed her raving about a themed birthday party she saw on television and to her surprise, is currently planning the surprise birthday party of Cassie’s life. Michael and Cassie are happy when those in their house are happy. They are each other’s priority and take care of each other, in and out of the home. This is true partnership and solid family teamwork.

We pour into others out of our own well of dignity and self-respect. If you are abusing your spouse, it is out of self-hate. When you are abusing your spouse, you cannot receive the esteem of your son or daughter. Sitting with an unclean spirit will eventually cut you off from your own blood supply.

God teaches us about love. 1 Corinthians 13: “What if I could speak all languages of humans and of angels? If I did not love others, I would be nothing more than a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. What if I could prophesy and understand all secrets and all knowledge? And what if I had faith that moved mountains? I would be nothing unless I loved others. What if I gave away all that I owned and let myself be burned alive? I would gain nothing, unless I loved others…”

God wants us to work together and in alignment with his word. We can only do this by showing continual love to the very people we committed to love. It is sinful to do something for others outside of your home for clout or opportunity but will not do the same action for someone who needs it inside your own home.

Many times, we are looking for the praise that comes with doing the action. Like a pet who wants a pat on the head for fetching a ball, many people are looking for validation outside of themselves and feebly calling it love. So many are quick to disregard the very same people they live and lay beside to receive temporary recognition from a stranger.

You cannot position yourself to greatness when your focus is personally proving Pavlov’s dog theory. You may not always receive the treat of a loud applause, and squeals of joy or even a hard hand clap. You may not even get a thank you at times. Do what God is asking you to do anyway. Listen to and for His whisper. Condition yourself to hear the greatness within and to not seek a treat for doing what is right and just.

When we focus on the reward, we lose sight of the quiet whisper of God. He is calling us to act in love and according to His will. God’s will should be in control, not our will. Do good deeds to honor God, not to exalt yourself. Each day we are faced with the choice to minister to those in our home first. We must take the lead to heal our homes before we look to heal others. We are blessed to be a blessing. Ecclesiastes 10:4 tells us, “If the anger of the ruler rises against you, do not leave your place, for calmness will lay great offenses to rest.” Do not let petty offenses remove your heart from your own home.

Honor your spouse and children as they are the source of your happiness. Joy is found when you see their faces after a loving and peaceful day spent together. Be persistent in bringing peace to your home. Follow the will of God and lead by example. When we follow the word of God, we are showing people they can trust in him.

Keeping peace in your home means you will have to be vulnerable and resilient throughout the heavy challenges that will come. We must try our best, trust in God and do our part. Trust in knowing God can put all pieces together and restore all relationships. Remain steadfast in remaining obedient to his word. Ephesians 6:12 states, “For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places.” Trust God’s word to lean on and lead you. Lean into Him.

When we demonstrate our Father’s love to our family when we pour love into them. The most effective way to resist evil is to draw near to God. Our world is so complex and stimulating that it is easy to get lost and caught up in distractions. Walk in integrity and kindness each day. It is noy excusable to say you did not know better, it is now time to do better. May God bless your home.

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