Here Is The Best Piece Of Advice You Can Give To Anyone Who Is Feeling The Now Whats

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In a few months, high school seniors will walk across the stage and toss their tassels. They'll have the best summer of their lives then leave for college, a career, or the army. They finally made it to the next stage of life.

However, they find themselves thinking, now what?

Somewhere, there is another person in their mid-twenties. This person thought they knew what they wanted in life, but they find themselves unhappy and confused. That person worked hard for their education. They worked hard for their dream job. Now, they have it. Now what?

Your'e thinking the same thing now. It's why you came to this article. Maybe you're happy with what you have in life, but you feel like something's missing. You're not depressed, but you're confused too.

I hope you know you’re not alone.

New graduates are taking time to think about what they’re going to do with their lives worldwide. Some are eager to get started with college or a career. Others are nervous, unsure of what they’re going to do.

There are people in their forties who aren’t sure what they want to do with their lives. Older people find themselves in the now what phase more than they’ll admit.

I went through the same struggle when I graduated. I wanted to get to college as soon as possible, but I had no idea what I wanted to do with my life. So I went exploring. I went to different places and tried many jobs. Now, in my thirties, I have a better idea of what I want in life. I don’t have a lot of regrets because I see them all as life lessons.

The best life lesson I learned was when I moved out of my mom’s house and went to college. If I had to give someone advice, I’d tell them to go as far away as they can.

Move as far away from your hometown as you can

Growing up, you’re influenced by the people around you. You’re surrounded by family, friends, and community. You absorbed the beliefs of your family, friends, and teachers. But do you believe in the same things?

Your knee-jerk reaction could be to say yes. Until you leave, it’s going to be harder for you to confront things you’ve been questioning. Leaving home means you’re away from anyone who influenced you growing up. The farther you go, the more likely your values and beliefs will be challenged. Embrace it!

Before I left for college, I grew up in a moderately conservative home. We spent a lot of Sundays in church. And my grandparents spent a lot of time watching Fox News. I knew what the people around me believed, but I found myself questioning.

When I picked my college, I made sure to pick one I knew I’d hardly know anyone. I could figure out who I was without people from my bubble.

In my first year of college, we jumped right into different people’s views on life. In one of my classes, my professor lead a discussion where we talked politics, religion, and life experiences. The professor didn’t try to control the conversation. All he did was ask us how we felt about different issues and listened. The most he asked was why we felt the way we did. No matter our experiences or political views, all of our opinions were validated. None of us came out of the conversation feeling like he was steering us towards his beliefs.

Through dialogues like I had in college and in my adventures in China, I could shape my beliefs. Now, I know I’m an agnostic atheist and liberal. But I will watch Fox News when it’s on so I can try to understand the other side’s point of view on issues.

Shaping my world view didn’t come easy. There would be the occasional person who’d say with disdain, “Those liberal schools are brainwashing our youth!” when I came home. Luckily those people are rare. But when they do show up, you learn to take their insults with a grain of salt. Most people have no problem having a civil conversation about disagreeing views.

The people you meet when you leave home will challenge your beliefs. Welcome these people into your life. At first, you will be frustrated when they point out biases you never knew you had. No one ever said growth is quick and painless.

These people will feel taxing when they point out toxic traits. However, they will be some of the first people to point out good things about yourself you never knew.

Your hometown will be surprised. And if your beliefs changed, people will point it out to you. If you show your growth, people will eventually accept it’s who you are.

There are some people who choose to stay because they’re afraid of what’s out there in the world. They’re afraid of other cultures and other people. And that’s why they insult people who leave. Don’t let a fear of otherness affect your decision to leave.

Moving away gives you endless benefits

When you move away from home, you’re getting exposed to a lot of new opportunities. People who leave their hometowns are more likely to be wealthier and open-minded to other people and cultures. It doesn’t mean the people who stay are ignorant. Sometimes, people who stay in their hometowns don’t have the same support or funds as you do. Some people can’t afford to leave their hometown though they want to.

Moving out can expand your comfort zone and give you a giant boost in confidence. It won’t take you long to realize how addicting independence is. Living on your own is the first part of recognizing you can do anything. Even if you can’t go farther than the next town, you’ll be proud of yourself for making the move.

You’ll be scared at first, trying something new. But you’ll learn quickly fear is an emotion. When you overcome your fears, you won’t think twice about trying new things or moving farther away if the opportunity presents itself.


One of the best things you could do for yourself is to get yourself out of your bubble. Moving as far as possible out of your hometown can be one of the first steps you take to becoming a better person.

It’s going to be hard. You’ll find yourself in situations where your views on the world are challenged. Don’t take them as personal attacks but as opportunities to educate yourself. Your open-minded nature will attract people you never thought you’d meet.

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I'm a Forever Middle-Child who doesn't have the ability to sit still. I often write about travel, relationships, life, books, food, humor, and life as a fat woman. Women's issues are a passion of mine too. I often write a lot of opinion pieces about what's going on in the world with a little touch of politics. I'll write about anything that comes to mind.

Beaverton, MI

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