How to tell if your Escapism habit Has Become Avoidance

Jordan Mendiola

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Have you ever felt like you were wasting a lot of time doing something that didn’t help you achieve your goals? Many of us resort to Netflix and TV shows to escape the real world for a little.

Or, if you’re like me, then you go to lots of concerts and let the nights be taken over by live shows. Your source of entertainment could be consuming you.

How do you manage your time?

Escaping reality more than usual is a tell-tale sign that you may need to reconstruct your daily routine. The average person sleeps for 8 hours a day and works for another 8.

So that leaves you with roughly 8 hours to themselves (minus eating, commuting, using the bathroom, etc.). Countless people are spending their 8 hours scrolling, watching The Office for the 4th time, and just plain out burning time.

Once you can recognize that you are spending a bit too much time utilizing forms of entertainment more than other activities, it’s time to switch it up.

These 8 hours can be used for other things: exercise, reading, drawing, or learning. If your current situation isn’t working for you, then you may need to look deeper.

Make changes in your life if you need to

Should you consider leaving the job you’ve been at for 20 years because it’s no longer fulfilling? Perhaps you could search the web for some odd freelancing jobs.

Or you could keep your job and try something that you’re afraid of, but have never done. One of the top 12 things people regret before dying is that “they wish they lived their own life.” Often, people live the lives that others expect of them, not the one they actually want to live.

Since many people end up spending most of their life doing something they don’t particularly love, they seek out more escapism than those who do love what they do.

“Depending on what they are, our habits will either make us or break us. We become what we repeatedly do”.
- Sean Covey

When my art teachers would have my classmates, and I start a project, I would excessively complain because I didn’t want to do it. After some time, however, I would find what I made to be authentic and gratifying.

Creating is more beneficial than Consuming

While being overseas, I have learned a lot about the kind of person I am. I am a person that needs to create. Not to say I don’t play games and watch movies, I just need to be continually making something.

The effects that come from creating something are similar to finishing an excellent workout. You know? The one that makes you drench your shirt? The one you feel on the toilet the following morning? Yeah, that one.

Throughout my time, I have seen the socials, the loners, the gamers, binge-watchers, and self-improvers. It seems as though after a long day of work, the last thing we want to do is something productive.

We need a break, we’re soldiers and can work long hours with spontaneous tasks that need to be done.

Take breaks often, but always maintain focus on your ultimate goal. We don’t want to develop any bad habits! Let’s not escape our reality. Let’s embrace it. Dive a little deeper.

Make the changes that need to be made. Cut out the toxic people we don’t need around.

Life is a book we write in everyday. Are you going to embrace your present or escape it? Love the life you create for yourself!

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Creative entrepreneur, U.S. Army Engineer, and dedicated runner. Committed to sharing ideas that lead to more fulfillment in all areas of life. Email:

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