Your priorities should be what drive you to where you want to go.
“The life you have left is a gift. Cherish it. Enjoy it now, to the fullest. Do what matters, now.” Leo Babauta
Often there is a disconnect between what you think your priorities are and what you spend y our time doing. You can name God and family as priorities, but if you spend all of your time watching TV, what are your real priorities?
How you spend your time shows what your priorities are.
Intentionally pursue what matters to you.
Action Step: Take five minutes to write down your priorities. What do you spend most of your time on? How does this match up with your priorities?
Get More Perspective
When you examine your priorities, you see them from your own perspective. Your emotions, stress, or even lack of sleep can mislead you. If you are filled with fear or doubt, it is hard to make rational decisions because your perspective is skewed.
“We need a variety of input and influence and voices. You cannot get all the answers to life and business from one person or from one source.” Jim Rohn
An outside perspective is needed to look objectively at the situation. Find someone who will be completely honest and who has your best interests at heart. With this additional perspective, you can set a better goal.
You cannot see your own blind spots, but others can reveal them to you.
Action Step: Ask for input about your priorities from five individuals you trust. Do not just ask family members if you want the most accurate response. Include your coworkers, friends, neighbors, and colleagues. Yes, this can be scary to do—but it is definitely worth it.
Send a short simple email or text such as this: Hi there! I need some help! Can you tell me what you see as my top three priorities? Thank you so much for your input!
Dig Deeper on Perspective
Once you’ve received a response, ask yourself, “What can I do with this feedback? How can I figure out what to listen to and what to ignore?”
Look for common patterns or trends. Remember that you chose whom to ask and that you chose those individuals for a reason: you value their opinions.
If the answers seem to conflict with one another, ask for more information. Be specific. With each question you ask, you move closer to clarity and learning more about yourself.
Action Step: Analyze the responses you’ve received. If needed, follow up and ask additional questions. Write down your thoughts, and know that you are moving closer toward establishing your priorities. Once those are established, you can set a goal that is important to you.
Priorities given from feedback: (1) kids, (2) family, (3) writing, and (4) career.
If you want one of your priorities to be a daily devotional time with God or more quality time with your spouse, but it isn’t one of areas mentioned in the responses, it is likely you have found a priority that you would like to focus on. Here's the thing: don’t set a goal yet. You're not ready for that yet. Rather, just make a note of it, and you can come back to it later. Remember—dramatic change doesn’t happen overnight, even though we want it too. Right now you figuring things out and sorting what matters most to you. You're gathering information and doing research, so it is important to not commit to anything yet.
What are your priorities? Feel free to share them in the comments.