Advocacy Is Not About You

Jillian Enright

Advocacy Is Not About You

It’s about lifting up the voices of the people for whom you advocate


Advocacy is defined in the dictionary asany action that speaks in favour of, recommends, argues for a cause, supports or defends, or pleads on behalf of others.”

When we think of advocacy, we often think of professionals and formal organizations. As Mel Baggs wrote, that is only one aspect of advocacy:

“Advocacy is fundamentally about true equality, respect, and power, and about recognizing and changing the current imbalances in all of those things.” — Mel Baggs

Advocacy has also been described as everyday behaviours that cannot be separated from other actions people take, because advocacy and self-advocacy are often woven into other practices (i.e. everyday living).

Advocacy encompasses forms of solidarity, information-sharing, education, and support — oftentimes by members of the community themselves connecting, sharing resources, and supporting each other.

There are three types of advocacy: individual, systemic, and self-advocacy.

1) Individual Advocacy

In individual advocacy a person, or group of people, concentrate their efforts on just one or two individuals.

For example, when a family hires me to advocate for their child, I am advocating for a particular individual — hopefully, as a collective group, we are all working together and advocating for that child.

When I attend a meeting with a family, or on a family’s behalf, the child must be my number one priority. If we all don’t keep this in mind, it is very easy for our vision to become clouded by our own egos.

I must enter into a relationship with the other professionals with the attitude that they understand their own organization and how it works better than I do, and it is not my place to tell them how to do their jobs.

I must approach the conversation with humility, openness, and a spirit of cooperation and collaboration.

If I get caught up in needing to be right or to prove my point, then I am centring the conversation around myself. This attitude will put people on the defensive and will render me much less effective, meaning I am not doing right by the child.

If people are feeling territorial and are not open to hearing a different perspective, then they are making it about themselves, and losing sight of the common goal of doing what’s best for the child.

The child’s voice should be centred in the conversation. We must ask them what they want, what are their concerns, and what are their goals? Only when we’ve truly given them an opportunity to freely express themselves can we proceed with their needs as the primary focus.

2) Systems Advocacy

Systems advocacy is about changing policies, laws or rules that impact how someone lives their life. For example, when we lobby for changes to our education system to improve inclusion and supports for neurodiverse and disabled students, this is a form of systems advocacy.

When we advocate on behalf of a community, it is very important that we are first listening to that community. Having been self-employed for 12 years, I have little experience with unions, however one related memory stands out for me.

It was time for contract negotiations, and our union reps were working with our organization’s board to agree on terms of employment moving forward. I remember hearing this was going on, and later being told that an agreement had been reached.

Staff were not invited to any union meetings, representatives didn’t come around and speak to the various departments (it was a small organization), and we weren’t sent any surveys nor asked questions about what we wanted.

That is systems advocacy without actual advocacy. Our advocates spoke on our behalf without consulting us. They fought for what they assumed we wanted, rather than making sure they were going to bat for what we truly needed and wanted.

We do this to neurodiverse and disabled people all the time — especially children, but to adults as well. We assume we know what’s best for someone else, which is patronizing and infantilizing. When we make assumptions we often get a lot wrong.

Regardless of a person’s mode of communication, or the nature of their disability, everyone has a right to have their voice heard and their autonomy respected. If we speak over someone for whom we are supposed to be advocating, we end up doing more harm than good.

3) Self-Advocacy

Broadly speaking, self-advocacy is defined as the act of representing oneself, one's views, or one’s interests. More specifically, self-advocacy refers to an individual’s ability to effectively communicate, convey, negotiate or assert their own interests, desires, needs, and rights.

When I read the word ability, I don’t think of an individual’s capacity for self-advocacy. I think of one’s ability to self-advocate in terms of how those around us facilitate, respect, allow, and create space for people to advocate for their own needs and rights.

For example, my son is a very strong and determined self-advocate, and has been from a very young age. He had an Individualized Education Plan (IEP) in grade two when he was still six years old. He was aware of some of the accommodations outlined in his IEP, as they had an affect on his daily school experience.

One day his principal was attempting to enforce an expectation contrary to what was outlined in my son’s IEP. My son, rightfully, stood up for himself, informing his principal that his plan needed to be followed.

Granted, at six years old, he was likely not as tactful as they might have preferred, but this is how children develop their self-advocacy skills. We can guide children in taking a respectful approach — tact comes with age, maturity, and practice — but all attempts at self-advocacy should be encouraged.

Self-advocacy is a very important skill for children to learn, especially neurodiverse and disabled children, whose rights are not always respected. We need to help children understand their own needs, figure out what kinds of supports or accommodations are most helpful, and teach them effective ways of communicating this information to others.

Autism Advocacy

Autism advocacy is something that has a problematic past — and present. Certain organizations treat Autistics as though we cannot, or should not, speak for ourselves. They view Autistic children as “broken” and seek ways to “fix” them, rather than offer person-centred supports.

These so-called charities ignore Autistic voices and presume to know better, despite the fact that most of those organizations don’t have Autistic people in leadership positions — a huge red flag.

Certain organizations continue to recommend harmful practices, despite many Autistic adults having clearly explained why these practices are so very problematic.

How can any person or group claim to advocate for a community, yet continue to ignore us, and push something we have clearly stated causes us harm?

They can’t and should have their charity status revoked. Worse, one such organization’s revenue is more than $3.4 million annually, but less than 60% of that actually goes to “services” and supports for the people they claim to serve.

If you’re ever looking to make a donation, please first look at where your money will go. A charity’s overhead should be between 20–30% of their revenue, leaving 70–80% of their funding for their program participants and the population they serve. If it’s significantly more than that, you’ll want to question what (and whom) your charitable dollars are really supporting.

Advocacy is about the individuals for whom you advocate. It is not about virtue signalling, infantilizing people, or lifting yourself up as “saviour” to a community.

If you’re advocating for a group to which you do not belong, make sure you’re listening more than talking. Chances are we didn’t ask for your help. And if you aren’t lifting up our voices, we don’t want your “help”.

© Jillian Enright, ADHD 2e MB

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Further information

More articles, also written by Actually Autistic self-advocates, explaining why the puzzle piece symbol is problematic:

The Problem with the Autism Puzzle Piece - Learn From Autistics

The Problem With the Autism Puzzle Piece

Autism no puzzle, nothing wrong with us - Altogether Autism

The autistic self-advocacy network (ASSAN)



Baggs, M. (2019). The Meaning of Self-Advocacy. Thinking person's guide to Autism.

Petri, G., Beadle-Brown, J., Bradshaw, J. (2020). Redefining Self-Advocacy: A Practice Theory-Based Approach. Journal of Policy and Practice in Intellectual Disabilities, 17: 207–218.

Rossetti, Z., Burke, M., Rios, K., Tovar, J. A., Schraml-Block, K., Rivera, J. I., Cruz, J., Lee, J. D. (2021). From Individual to Systemic Advocacy: Parents as Change Agents. Exceptionality, 29(3), 232–247, DOI: 10.1080/09362835.2020.1850456

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Neurodivergent. 20+ years social work and psychology experience. I write about mental health, neurodiversity, advocacy, education, and parenting. Founder of ADHD 2e MB. CYW, BA Psychology.


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