RSD: The feelings are real, but the cause is all wrong

Jillian Enright

"This Rejection's Got Me So Low"*

RSD: The feelings are real, but they got the causes all wrong.

*Lyrics from the song “Self Esteem”, by The Offspring.

Rejection sensitive

You may have heard this term going around, referring to something called “Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria”, or RSD.

There are a number of possible reasons those of us with ADHD experience emotions more intensely than others. We often struggle with emotional lability, emotional impulsivity, emotional dysregulation, and negative intent attribution.

This has led to a lot of discussion about the term Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD) in the ADHD community over the past few years. The detailed descriptions of what RSD feels and looks like resonates with so many people who also have ADHD.

I even wrote an extensive piece about it this summer:

Rejection Is Often More Painful For Neurodivergent People


Did you know that RSD is not in the DSM-V, nor is it recognized in the psychiatric or psychological communities?

Don’t get me wrong, people don’t need their experiences to be medicalized in order for them to be 100% real and valid. It can be extremely validating to have our feelings put into words, and to find out that so many others have similar experiences.

The description of RSD is very real, as an overwhelming majority of the ADHD population can attest to, which is why I was so drawn to exploring and researching it in the first place.

But now I want a do-over because I’ve learned a lot more and, as a result, have some important things to add. Notably, the fact that RSD is attributed to ADHD and neurodivergence that has me thinking about this more critically.

There is very little actual research done on Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (none), so it’s very difficult to critique research that doesn’t exist. RSD is a term made up by Dr. William Dodson to describe the experience of many of his ADHD patients. In fact, he claims 99.9% of his patients experience RSD and cite it as their biggest problem, a figure for which he provides zero actual data.

The primary information about RSD is available on the ADDitude Mag website and on Dr. Dobson’s own website, neither of which cite any peer-reviewed research. Dr. Dobson’s website has zero citations, and ADDitude Mag’s website only cites itself and takes you in circles around other articles on their website.

Dr. Dodson took old descriptions of atypical depression from an “old psychiatric textbook” (no source provided), which had cited RSD as part of a mood disorder.

Dr. Dodson instead says that RSD is directly caused by ADHD. He at least acknowledges that criticism is a common experience in the lives of people with “unrecognized and untreated ADHD”, but says nothing about the very real and continued criticism after ADHD is diagnosed and treated.

It’s not disordered when it’s a rational response to actual repeated rejection

Research has shown that children diagnosed with ADHD are, in fact, more often rejected by their peers. As many as 52% of 7–9 year old children with ADHD fall in the rejected category.

Children with ADHD are also more vulnerable to bullying and victimization, and many adults with ADHD describe childhood experiences of rejection and bullying by peers.

Dysphoria comes from the Greek words dys (pain) and pherein (to carry), also loosely translated as “pain which is hard to bear”. Dr. Dodson’s website provides the following description:

"Rejection-Sensitive Dysphoria is often experienced as if it were a physical wound. Patients will hunch over and clutch their chests as if they have just been stabbed... If they internalize the pain they can instantaneously drop into a full Major Depression-like syndrome."

Well, if you spent a significant part of your childhood experiencing actual rejection, criticism, and bullying, it stands to reason that you would become hypersensitive to these experiences.

“Personal identities are constituted through their relationship to the world in regard to self-image, self-esteem, individuality, and social position within society.” — Alan Jurgens

It would make sense to have more intense reactions to rejection than someone who had grown up feeling accepted and appreciated — someone who had the environment and circumstances in which to develop a healthy sense of self.

The social model

Where the pathology paradigm asks “what is wrong with the individual?”, the social model of disability asks, “what’s wrong with the person’s environment?”

“Social attitudes are a key component in the dynamics of enablement and disablement.” — Dr. Nick Walker

When a person encounters difficulties, the social model does not ask what is wrong with the person. Instead, this model points to the context and surrounding environment.

The social model seeks to uncover and change how institutions and cultural norms disable individuals due to lack of understanding, acceptance, and accommodation.

As it relates to RSD, rather than blaming the neurodivergent individual for experiencing undue criticism, rejection, and bullying, we should instead look at how and why people are mistreating someone simply because they are different.

As Dr. Dodson even says,

“RSD is always triggered by some event and because the mood shift matches the nature of the trigger, the internalized RSD can be considered a normal mood in every way except its intensity.”

So the good doctor acknowledges that there’s been some kind of upsetting event, but perhaps the individual’s reaction was so intense that it causes them great distress.

Rather than recommending medications like guanfacine and clonodine, which Dr. Dodson does on the ADDitude website, perhaps we could address the complex trauma stemming from so many painful experiences.

I’m also not anti-medication, I’m a proponent of good healthcare, but I dislike bandaid solutions. I hate gaslighting and victim-blaming even more.

I’m not saying that we, as neurodivergents, aren’t responsible for our own reactions and behaviours — we certainly are, to the extent that they are under our control.

This is much larger than any individual, neurodivergent or not. It’s about a societal norm that says things like “if you’re getting picked on, just stop acting weird” instead of “stop being a jerk and picking on someone just because they’re weird.”

I’m weird and proud of it, so what? I’m old now and have a lot fewer shits to give about what others think.

© Jillian Enright, ADHD 2e MB



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Neurodivergent. 20+ years social work and psychology experience. I write about mental health, neurodiversity, advocacy, education, and parenting. Founder of Neurodiversity MB. CYW, BA Psychology.


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