Have you ever had a job you thought was perfect? Think about it.
What you’ve probably encountered in your professional experience was a job that you enjoyed, that didn’t pay well. Or one that paid well, but caused tremendous stress. Or one with great benefits, but an idiot for a boss!
Let’s face it… In life and love there’s always a trade-off. People typically understand this philosophy when it comes to the world of work, but ignore this prevailing principle when it comes to dating and mating.
Accordingly, here are 7 work-related principles that can lead to a more balanced perspective and greater relationship success if embraced.
» KNOW YOUR “U.S.P.”
In business this abbreviation stands for “Unique Selling Position.” Which in layman’s terms simply refers to your unique value. What is yours? What separates you from others? What value do you bring to a relationship? The clearer you are on this, the easier it is to recognize what you deserve and who deserves you!
» KNOW YOUR “DEAL BREAKERS”
These are non-negotiable things that you won’t consider compromising in order to be in a relationship. Mine? I won’t (knowingly) accept a man who’s a liar, cheater, miser, or mess.
» CONSIDER A PROBATIONARY PERIOD
Most jobs have “learning curves” and as a result, allow about 90 days to make a determination of whether things are gonna’ work out. The same should apply to budding relationships. Unless there is a lack of chemistry, safety concerns, or extreme personality differences, give it some time. Better to be sure than to look back in regret. In other words, don’t “pink slip” someone prematurely.
» DECIDE ON WHAT “PERKS” WORK FOR YOU
Realizing that you can’t have everything, what’s most important to you in your benefits package? What would serve like the icing on the proverbial cake? For example, many men desire an attractive mate. If she’s also a good cook in the kitchen and in the bedroom, that would be considered a “relationship perk.”
» REMEMBER THAT IF YOU "SNOOZE YOU LOSE"
A lot of relationships start out with both parties putting their best foot forward. They realize the importance of establishing a good initial impression. Then when there is a level of comfort, or the “L” word is mentioned, somebody slacks off. Which is okay to some extent. Nobody wants to be on “best behavior” forever. But, by the same token, you can’t afford to take your partner for granted either. The competition still exists, so remember to stay on top of your game!
» DETERMINE IF YOU ARE LOOKING FOR A “PERMANENT POSITION” OR SOMETHING TEMPORARY
There’s nothing more frustrating than dating someone who’s not sure whether they are in the market for something casual or serious. Know what you want and be honest about your intentions. Good karma makes for good dating experiences.
» ESTABLISH A SOLID ATTENDANCE RECORD
Can you be counted on in good times and bad? Do you put in quality time to reap quality results? Or are you an “emotional no-show”? Assess and address.
Next time you’re embarking upon a new relationship, or struggling with an old one, do some personal evaluation and make sure your “performance record” makes the grade. This will ensure that you won’t hear the infamous words of Donald Trump of The Apprentice Show… ”You’re fired!"