7 Reasons Being A Good Cook Makes You a "Hot" Mate!

Jennifer Brown Banks

"The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.”


Some time ago, I made a Saturday trip to a neighborhood store, in search of a recipe box to “pretty up” my kitchen and help organize some of my party menu ideas.

Cooking and entertaining top my list of fun things to do to connect with those I care about and express other forms of creativity beyond writing.


When I arrived, I was overwhelmed with the array of new products and gadgets for today’s domestic diva. Bold, bright colors, pretty patterns and elaborate displays…yay!

I was like a kid in a candy store! Like many women, I could have spent hours exploring, shopping and planning. But my budget and my practical side reasoned that I should get what I came for, check out at the nearest register and find the quickest exit.

My excitement was short lived though, when I became frustrated that with all the useful stuff stacked, I couldn’t seem to find a simple recipe box.

I urgently flagged down the first clerk I spotted.

“Can you help me?” I asked a young, attractive lady in her early to mid twenties.

She came over and attempted to assist me in a matter of minutes.

As our conversation went on, I was dumbfounded at what I came to ultimately discover.

After darting from aisle to aisle, this “modern girl” finally confessed that she really didn’t even know what a recipe box was!

When I enlightened her, she replied, “Oh, I don’t cook!” as if it were a badge of honor.

I thanked her for her help and left, when an inventory check later revealed there were no more boxes available in stock. But this experience got me to thinking.


Does “slaving” over a hot stove make some women feel less “liberated?”

Have the traditions that many of us grew up with become outdated like 8-track tapes?

Are we “starving” our relationships to feed our careers, egos and bank accounts?

This is food for thought that’s definitely worth examining.

Though cooking is not necessarily a “rite of passage” into womanhood, it’s a skill that I believe is nice to have, no matter how successful (a man or woman) is, or how much “bacon” they bring home.

As a self-professed foodie, I could cite numerous reasons, but here are the top reasons cooking is “hot,“ for single and married folks alike.


1. Cooking provides the perfect “recipe” for romance.

Like most women, I have always loved being wined and dined at fancy restaurants by male suitors as part of the courting process. But, as relationships evolve, there’s something very “intimate” about a home cooked meal shared in the privacy of one’s home--- with candlelight, a little music, dancing and the ability to let your hair down as the situation dictates.

2. Cooking at home is often healthier than restaurant eating.

When eating out, many times foods are processed, served with rich and fattening sauces, fried in excess fat, “super sized” and without proper preparation for those with dietary restrictions and food allergies. Dining out can be costly in more ways than one.

According to Sciencedaily.com “ Researchers from the University of Washington School of Public Health have been peeking into kitchens -- via interviews -- for years now. They've just published results showing people who cook at home more often are likely to eat a healthier overall diet.

By cooking more often at home, you have a better diet at no significant cost increase, while if you go out more, you have a less healthy diet at a higher cost," said Adam Drewnowski, director of the UW's Center for Public Health Nutrition and senior author of "Cooking at home: A strategy to comply with U.S. dietary guidelines at no extra cost," published in the American Journal of Preventive Medicine.”

3. Culinary skills (much like an impressive title) add to any woman or man’s romantic resume.

Think of it as increasing your “Blue Book” value on the dating market.

Here’s what a male writer I read recently wrote: “The number of women these days that openly admit they can’t cook is astonishing. When a woman says she can’t cook, the first thought that comes to a lot of good men’s minds is “How the hell do you take care of yourself and how would you be able to take care of me?”

4. Cooking allows you to be more independent and more realized.

No more waiting for your mom to fix your favorite meal, or hoping that your neighborhood restaurant will have Pot roast on Monday’s menu, or dialing for take-out; you can fix it yourself!

5. Cooking seduces all the senses.

From the pleasant aromas, to the eye-appealing arrangements on the plate, in a variety of colors and textures, to the heavenly taste--- a good meal can satisfy those we care for on so many levels. And for those who have kids, it adds to their childhood memories.

6. Cooking is a fun way to bond.

You can cook and he can make the salad. Feed each other, or perhaps share stories and traditions associated with family recipes. Cooking makes a man feel pampered and catered to. And if he’s special to you, isn’t that how you’d like for him to feel?

7. Many of the characteristics that make for an effective, skilled cook are transferable to other life pursuits as well.

Things like: effective time management, following directions, creativity, organizational skills and pride in presentation.

Wouldn't you agree?

With many of us being on state mandated quarantine and confined to indoor activities, this is a great time to turn on the stove and turn up the heat in your relationships! Try it, you just might like it.

Final Thoughts

There’s good news here: You don’t have to sign up for professional culinary school or subject yourself to endless trial and error; there are many online cooking sites and YouTube videos that provide step-by-step tutorials to increase your cooking I.Q.!

Not to mention, the vast array of books available at your local library.

Bon Appetit!

Image credits:

Rolls with tooth picks-Pixabay.com, Salsa Salad: By author

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Chicago, IL

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