I have always thought it made more sense that our ultimate goals in life were more about being happy than attempting to achieve perfection. Instead of worrying about whether we look like a success to others, what if we gauge our success by how happy we are and ask ourselves what needs to change for us to be truly content. In the article, 10 Tips for a Happier and Smarter Life, author Sadhguru says, “At present, the quality of your life is not determined by the clothes that you wear, the educational qualifications that you carry, the family background that you come from or the bank balances that you hold. Rather, the quality of your life depends upon how peaceful and joyous you are within yourself. Do you think the man who is driving the car is happier than the man who is walking on the street? No. It is not decided by what you have. All those people who depend on external situations to be happy will never know true joy in their lives. It is time we look inward and see how to create personal wellbeing.”
Everyone sees happiness differently so there isn’t a guidebook on how to find happiness, but I think we all have a fairly good idea about what makes us happy. Ask yourself these questions and see if they point you in the right direction.
When are you the happiest? Is there any reason why you cannot do more of that?
What do you need to change to be happier? Write down your answers as well as the challenges involved.
How can you eliminate those challenges?
Who makes you happy? Shouldn’t you be around those people more?
Are you happy with your life? What would you change?
Are you happy with your job? If not, what job would make you happy?
Is it your attitude that needs to change? Your perspective?
Life is too short to try to be something that doesn’t fulfill us. I hope you take time to reflect on what you need to be happy instead of trying to achieve someone else’s idea of happy.