We all have those moments when we have taken a beating from life and/or from the people with whom we interact. We need someone who can give us direction, advice to heal our souls and calm our minds. We need that best friend who always has our back, and can speak words of wisdom to help us to see others’ perspectives.
Having someone who is your unconditional supporter is a lifesaver on those days when you want to hide under the covers. Life will be so much easier if you can treat yourself with more kindness and talk to yourself as if you are your best friend. How can we help others love themselves if we cannot love ourselves?
Our lives are meant to be lived to the fullest and to do that we have to have support and encouragement. The best place to look for that is within yourself. Here are some tips to help you help yourself.
1. Change your self-talk.
Listen to your self-talk for a day. Are your words uplifting, or are you tearing yourself down? Compare your thoughts with what you say to your best friend. Build yourself up with your words, and start to only say positive phrases. Continue to tell yourself you are more than enough until you believe it.
2. Practice self-care without guilt.
We often feel guilty when we pamper ourselves and do something that is only for us. However, when we take care of ourselves, it makes it easier to take care of others. It also strengthens our mental health and puts us in a better frame of mind. Taking care of yourself will have a positive influence on everything you do.
3. Do what you love.
Don’t listen to people who say you are too old to do something, or that an activity you enjoy is weird or silly. You never know if there is someone else who has been hesitant to do something and seeing you doing it will open the door for that person to try it.
4. Give yourself grace.
As a high school teacher, I have numerous opportunities to make a fool of myself, so I have learned to laugh at the less-than-glorious moments, and hope my students will learn to laugh at themselves too. We all make mistakes, say the wrong thing, or react badly. While we may be hard on ourselves, chances are pretty good that the other people involved forgot about it five minutes later.
5. Be yourself.
Trying to maintain a persona other than your authentic self is exhausting and defeating. Being transparent about strengths and weaknesses is liberating, and puts others at ease.
You hold the power to be happy and to choose joy. Follow the five steps to love yourself, and you will see a difference in your perspective about life.