The #1 Secret To Understanding Your Priorities

J.R. Heimbigner

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What are the most important things in your life right now?

In my little world, the most important things in my life are my faith, my wife, and my children. To be close to the God who created the universe and wants to be in a relationship with me is important. Loving my wife well, caring for her, and building our relationship is so important. Being here for my two little girls, to teach them, to love them, to show them how a man should act is important to me.

Current State of Life

These things were not always the most important to me though. While I am in my mid-30’s now, I am in this phase of family-building and career-building. However, career-building isn’t the most important thing to me. It is just part of the process. It is a very interesting time of life.

This has been a time in life spent mostly thinking of other people. My wife, my daughters, my family, my career. It has been a good time, and it has been a challenging time as well.

My Twenties

In my 20’s, I was most concerned with finding a career, finding a wife, and finding my way. It was this discovery time for me. While it started in college, it really kicked into overdrive once I graduated. During this time of life, I spent a lot of time on meaningless things too. I had all the time in the world.

I wasted my time on video games and TV. My time was spent attempting to be this sports nut who knew it all. This timeframe was spent mostly on me. It was a very selfish time.

Life is Full of Change

I woke up this morning at 4:15 AM to my two-year-old daughter shouting, “Daaaaaaddyyyyyy!” Standing in her crib, she clearly did not want to sleep anymore. And because I am typically an early-riser, she knew I would be the one to come and snuggle her.

In moments like these, I resign myself to cozy-snuggles in our rocking chair in our living room. While we snuggled and she dozed in and out of sleep, I read this article about a woman whose husband passed away in his thirties, in it, Keisha Blair shared some great tips about life, but also bits from her experience which reminded me how sweet 4 AM is with my little girl (who is currently sitting on my lap while I type).

It is in these small moments where I find inspiration to change my priorities further. To drop work further down the list, and bring up things like my physical, emotional, and spiritual health. It is when I really starting thinking about the four parts of my intentional life.

What is True for Me is True For You

I am finding more and more that my life isn’t the exception. No matter whether you are in your twenties, thirties, forties, or older, we all have priorities. And these priorities are ever-changing with our phase in life.

And today, I don’t have a list of points on how to make change your priorities or how to build on your priorities. I just want to acknowledge that they change. And acknowledge how important it is to realize them and live in the moment. To appreciate our existence and phase in life.

To find peace at 4 AM. Remember to escape from work at 5 PM or earlier. To hug my spouses and hold our children. Remember to take in a sunset and drink our coffee slowly.

Each phase in life brings something new. Embrace it.

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My goal with my writing is to help people get everything done they want in their very busy lives. I believe we can we all can achieve our dreams and I know it starts with having the right mindset, systems, and taking action every single day. My writing shares how to do this through self-improvement, inspiration, and productivity.

Spokane, WA

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