Never take a good woman for granted.
We are all looking for commodity different when it comes to a mate — especially someone we ’ll consider spending the rest of our life with.
I do suppose, however, that there are some universal qualities that men ask in the woman who they love further than the idea of being single
.1 She's warm-hearted and Nurturing;
I was having a hard time choosing the word to use for this point. Nurturing? Minding? Compassionate? Warm? Kind?
But warmhearted encompasses the idea of someone who's all of the above.
While I believe that ( good) men are natural-born defenders and should do everything in their power to make the woman in their life feel safe, I also know that men have their own solicitations to feel watched for or looked after.
Society has painted a false picture that men are affectless or cold, but the trueness is that we feel our own frustrations, pain, fears, and precariousness.
A warmhearted person doesn’t encounter off these feelings when he expresses them — she shows empathy, compassion, and support.
She asks what’s wrong and lends an attention.
Conversely, this requires men to learn how to effectively communicate the feelings they ’re having so that she can step up and connect with you.
She can not give empathy for feelings she doesn’t know that you ’re passing.
2 She's independent;
There’s a smirch around the term “ independent woman” these days that enforces the false narrative that a woman who’s independent doesn’t “ need a man.”
Well — she doesn’t — but that shouldn’t be a bad thing.
Independence is a sign of self- sufficiency and confidence. It shows you that she has her own interests, pursuits, and passions.
A woman with her own opinions and shoes will keep your conversations interesting. She'll be intellectually challenging and curious about the ways of the world.
She'll help open your eyes to new perspective and be interested in the bones you can show to her.
Being independent doesn't mean being disconnected. It simply means that you have two lives to mound on top of each other rather than one person simply being absorbed into the other.
Double the pleasure, double the fun.
3 She's Hot and Pretty;
HOLD YOUR steeds.
Hear me out before you shoot to the comment section.
This isn't about appearance, fitting into a earth, being a certain size, or looking a certain way.
Being sexy is an attitude. It's expression of desire. It's openness of, and connection to — self.
It's the capability to completely connect with yourself and your mate during those private moments in the ways that are most true to your relationship.
It’s about being willing to display that piece of yourself that gets lost in the moment, that can close your eyes with the person you love anywhere in the world and be completely one with them.
Being sexy lives in those playful moments, the intimate looks, the wink across the room at a party.
It’s not about what you look like, it’s about how you connect with another person.
4 She's dependable;
Reliability, how boring. Reliability is the reason you buy a Toyota Corolla, not excitement. It’s not glamorous or sexy or particularly interesting — but you know what? When you walk outdoors in the morning and turn the key you know that sucker is going to start up without a blench no matter how important it has been through.
A great romantic mate is someone you can count on without having to worry about it. You know they're going to be there for you when you need it. You know they're going to stand behind you when you need support, beside you when you need a teammate, and in front of you when you need protection. You don’t have to wonder if they're going to do what they said they're going to do or if they're going to slip out on you last minute, because they're dependable.
5 She's supportive and encouraging.
We're all on our own journeys in life, pursuing our own passions, defining our own personalities.
When we make the conscious choice to enter into a relationship, however, we're making the pledge to support someone additional trip while we pursue our own.
The type of woman a man chooses to be with plays a big part in his position of success. Someone who stands beside him and makes him feel encouraged and supported will keep him motivated and inspired to rise to new heights for his own sake, an for hers.
6 She makes you feel emotionally safe;
Men frequently hold back on expressing feelings or unsteadiness due to fear of being judged. Peers judge us, society judges us, people on social media judge us. We're ALL judged, men and women likewise.
Feeling safe and secure in our connections in a way that allows us to completely express ourselves and feel accepted for who we truly are at our core, is the foundation of building a deep and meaningful bond with someone because we're comfortable showing all of ourselves to them.
7 She's intellectually challenging;
Inescapably this will lead to commentary about how men are intimidated by intelligent women, but I believe that a man who's secure and confident in himself would prefer the fellowship of someone he can have meaningful and aping conversations with. The only option is sitting in silence watching Netflix or taking each other to the bedroom when there’s nothing left to say.
Fun, at times, but clearly not a sustainable foundation for a partnership over time.
8 She makes space for you to feel wanted and needed;
Before you lash out about this, hear me out.
Men have been conditioned (both biologically and socially) to give and protect. Indeed though in ultramodern times we don’t need to do this for women anymore, it's ingrained in a man’s identity to want to feel significant through donation.
On top of that, we're to be the chasers at every turn, which can feel hopeless if not reciprocated or conceded.
Something as small as changing a light bulb or giving advice on a challenge you ’re facing can make him feel like he's bringing commodity to the table in a world that has made his part unclear and uncertain.
Still, he may pull back from the relationship, If he doesn’t feel like he can bring any value to your life.
9 She's expressive and tender;
Spoiler alert Lots of guys can’t read between the lines or easily understand non-verbal communication. Basically, we can need effects to be spelled out for us.
On top of that, we frequently communicate and express affection through physical touch. Holding hands, snuggling on the settee, laying your hand on his casket … and, well, coitus, are all conduct that make us feel wanted by (and seductive to) you.
Without sexual connection and expression, men can fluently feel unwanted or rejected.
10 She's passionate about her own pretensions;
The stylish brigades in life are made of two people who are clear on their individual individualities and purposes. Perk points if you can find a way for them to combine and back each other up through support and collaboration.
11 She's harmonious;
Every healthy relationship is erected on a foundation of thickness. Without someone showing you that they ’re serious over time, how can you ever know what to anticipate day to day?
.12 She's kind and sweet;
How is this person with children? With friends? With their family? Violent chemistry in the fray of passion, the amenability to go on adventures, being passionate about you and about their life, these effects are each important to take into consideration … but in the long run they're perk features, they aren't the foundation.
When you strip down all of the extras. Take down the hours in the spa, the developer clothes, the fancy auto or the nice condo in the megacity … what you're left with is the core of the person you're committing yourself to. Is this notoriety you can actually see yourself waking up to in 5, 10, 20 times from now?
. A beautiful face will eventually come wrinkled, a great body will eventually progress, but a good heart will always remain a good heart.
13 She's clear on her identity;
No adult man or woman wants to be with a mate who fully sacrifices their individuality for the sake of a relationship.
Not only can this feel inviting, but it signals a sense of reliance and lack of tone- adequacy.
Someone who's clear on who they're and what they stand for is seductive to a man who's looking for an equal teammate in his life.
14 She values particular development;
I believe every human should be on a harmonious trip of advancing themselves. Maintaining and enhancing both the body and the mind show a sense of respect and value for one’s tone.
Minding for ourselves gives us a deeper capability to watch for others as you can’t pour water out of an empty mug. It expresses that we've norms for the treatment we accept both from ourselves and from a mate, and it empowers us to connect with our own inner- strength as we exercise discipline and thickness.
A man who's always working to ameliorate himself and his life will value a woman who does the same.
15 She's willing to put in the trouble;
Trouble, trouble, trouble. Connections are a two way road, and occasionally beautiful people gain a sense of annuity along their trip in life. They're frequently treated else, especially when it comes to courting. They know they're frequently pursued and asked, and thus anticipate to seacoast through connections without having to put in any real work.
It does n’t count how beautiful or handsome you are, connections are about give and give, and only work if both people contribute inversely.
16 She's Playful:
Suppose about all of the serious corridor of life. Work, bills, scores, chores … your relationship shouldn’t have to be on that list.
Sure, there are numerous serious times in a relationship. We need to have serious conversations, make serious opinions, and live ( fairly) serious lives.
That's exactly why being with someone who’s suitable to be playful and fun is consummate to keeping the balance.
Someone who’s happy, animated, kittenish, and fun — when the time is right.
Not everyone is naturally like this all the time, but I believe that everyone has commodity that they're passionate about or love in their lives — and this love can light them up when they get into the right state.
Someone who’s serious all the time weighs down the mood and makes enjoying the lighter moments in life delicate. Life is simply too short to not include play in your regular schedule.
17 She Socially compatible with you:
It isn't realistic to suppose that every person will always thrive in all different types of scenarios. A situation you love to be in might discountenance your significant other.
But, that being said, I believe it's important to develop a versatility in ourselves that allows us to be comfortable in a variety of surroundings.
This is a precious particularity when it comes to family events, spending time with friends, or indeed work parties. Life is going to put you in a wide range of scripts where having your mate by your side is going to be important to you, and if they substantially refuse to take part in effects that you love, it'll soon breed conflict and potential resentment.
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