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The Reddit post is written by a 29-year-old woman who is married to a doctor and has never had a job.
The author, whose husband is a doctor, decided to stay at home with her children after getting married and having kids soon after college. She explains:
“My husband is a doctor and I don’t work. I got married and had my kids soon after graduating from college, so I’ve never had a real job. I was planning on working for a couple of years and had a few job offers, but my daughter happened sooner than we’d planned so I decided to just stay home. While it is quite nice that I can afford to stay home, money was definitely not the main reason why I married my husband. I love him because of his personality.”
The conflict arose when the author's stepsister, who also has three children and is struggling financially, confronts her at a family barbecue. She continues:
“My stepsister (30F) has three children (7F, 6M, and 1M). I babysit them fairly often. A few days ago, my parents had a barbecue at their house. My fifth wedding anniversary was a few weeks ago, and my husband got me a diamond eternity band and tennis bracelet. I was showing those to my mom when my stepfather and stepsister walked over."
The stepsister joined the conversation, but didn't like the topic of conversation:
"My stepdad asked my stepsister when she was getting a ring. She gave me a dirty look and said, “Not everybody can afford to waste thousands of dollars on a shiny rock.” I tried to be the bigger person and told my stepdad that she doesn’t need a ring, and it’s obvious that her boyfriend loves her a lot whether she has one or not.”
According to MoneySense, it’s crucial to approach a situation of income disparity between siblings with empathy and sensitivity when a sibling who earns less money becomes jealous of your wealth. It’s advised to address their feelings in a non-confrontational manner, emphasizing the importance of maintaining a strong and supportive relationship, as highlighted by Forbes.
The author tried to show empathy, but the stepsister wasn’t hearing any of it:
“She told me to get lost with my fake sympathy. I asked her if she woke up on the wrong side of the bed today and she said, “Some people actually have things to worry about. A useless little gold digger who’s never worked a day in her life wouldn’t understand.” I was quite offended but I don’t like confrontation, so I just smiled and told her to tell me if she needs help with anything.”
The author concludes with:
“She said that it’s hard to feel happy when she and her boyfriend still rent a house and can’t afford special stuff for themselves and their kids while working long hours. She said that her kids feel awful when they see all the nice things my kids have, but she can’t afford it, so she has to watch her cousin do everything she dreamed of doing. I told her to stop being jealous and said that if she doesn’t want her kids to be jealous, then I won’t babysit them anymore. She called me insensitive, and said that I’ve always been given everything I want and I’m spoiled”.”
What do you think?
Is the author indeed in the wrong to be a stay-at-home mom, and accept nice gifts from her doctor husband, since it makes her family members feel badly about it?
Or is the stepsister’s insecurity and jealousy not the author’s responsibility to accommodate, and the stepsister needs to get over herself?
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