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A Reddit user is seeking advice on a wedding-related conflict with her sister.
The author explains that she is getting married in the fall and recently sent out wedding invitations to close family and friends. She explains:
“I am getting married to my fiancé in October this year. We got engaged in January and couldn't be more excited. It's a very small wedding and we're only inviting close family and friends. The problem is with my 30-year-old sister, Lisa. Lisa has a 2-year-old son with her husband. I don't have a super affectionate relationship with Lisa for multiple reasons that I can't fit into this post.”
The author admits that she and Lisa do not have a particularly affectionate relationship, which has resulted in tension between the two:
“We sent out the wedding invites last month. Our wedding ceremony starts at 1:30 pm and we asked our guests to please arrive at the venue by 1:00. Lisa told me that the time 'wouldn't work' because of her 2-year-old's nap schedule. She said he takes a nap at 12 and that she's not forcing him to be awake so she can get him ready for the event or he will be a terror. I don't have kids but I thought this was a silly reason.”
According to Hitched, when faced with wedding guests making unreasonable demands, it’s important to maintain a calm and diplomatic approach. New Jersey Bride states that addressing the issue directly and communicating your limitations while offering alternative solutions can help manage such situations effectively.
Trying to find a solution of some kind, the author offered another option:
“I asked Lisa if she could find a babysitter and she said she can't because everyone she trusts will be at the wedding. I suggested that they at least attend the reception but she said she won't if she can't be at the wedding. She told me she won't attend the wedding unless we change the time. I told her we can't do that. Lisa said she was not going then. I was quite hurt by this. I wasn't sure how to react in the moment, so I just abruptly ended the conversation with an excuse.”
Now the bride finds herself caught in the middle of a conflict between Lisa and their mother, who is urging the author to make amends, as she concludes:
“A few days later, Lisa asked me if I thought about her suggestion. I reminded her there was no way we can change the time. She told me she hopes I'm happy that they aren't attending and said that everyone is going to ask why she was not there, and it was all because I can't accommodate my nephew. I snapped at her and told her the world doesn't revolve around her and her son. She called me a bridezilla and has blocked me. My mom is pestering me to make amends with Lisa, but I just don't think I'm in the wrong.”
What do you think?
Was the author wrong to not change the time of her wedding ceremony, as she can’t build her entire life around her nephew’s nap schedule?
Or should the author be more accommodating to ensure her sister can attend her wedding, and as a sister she should be willing to move mountains to make that happen?
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