A 25-year-old woman recently became upset after finding out that her 27-year-old friend had a wedding without inviting her, as detailed in a Reddit post.
*This is a work of non-fiction sourced from social media discussion boards and verified experts/specialists.*
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The two women in question had been friends for seven years and had been colleagues for six, and although they had been close during this time, their relationship had become fraught in recent months. The author explains:
“Since we are both dentists, we have been colleagues for 6 years. She’s been with her now-husband since 2012. She never had another relationship besides him. One time her now-husband came to her drunk and told her that she is nothing to him, out of the blue, and threw her in the streets. I took her to my home and talked to her, and told her that his behavior is not to be forgiven and she needs to reconsider her relationship.”
Throughout these ups and downs, the author had been there for her friend. The two talked regularly, shared troubles, and promised "to attend each other's weddings and be godmothers to each other's children. She continues:
“After that incident, he manipulated her up to the point where she asked him to marry her and she bought her own engagement ring even though he told her multiple times he does not want to get married. They didn’t have much money, but they lived decently. She was really worried that she reached 24 years and she will never find anybody else, and really wanted a family.”
After the author "reached out multiple times" to her friend, since she hadn’t heard from her, the latter revealed she had sadly experienced a miscarriage. The author helped her friend through the difficult time, as well. However, a recent incident caused her to feel deep feelings of betrayal. The author concludes with:
"We were finally able to see each other in person. We were in different parts of the country. I asked her if she decided on a wedding date since I knew she was engaged for 3 years and wanted a May 2023 wedding. She told me she doesn’t have the money and it’s not a priority for her right now. I told her then whenever she will have it, I will be there for her, as we have told each other multiple times. This was 2 months ago. About a month ago she posted a save-the-date post, that she later deleted, and when I asked about it she left me on ‘seen’. Last night I was scrolling on Instagram and saw a photo of her in a wedding dress with her husband and their first dance. I felt really broken and upset since she lied to me about not having her wedding.”
According to Healthline, 75% of women feel they have been in a one-sided friendship where they put in more effort than was reciprocated. Likewise, MindBodyGreen found that many felt they had given more than they received, with many showing signs of frustration and disappointment upon reflection.
The author was absolutely shocked that she wasn’t invited, and was so angry that she unfollowed her friend on Instagram.
What do you think?
Is the author justified in unfollowing her friend on Instagram, since she feels so deeply betrayed by her friend?
Or does the author need to recognize that her friend is in an abusive situation, and needs to still be there for her friend, who is in a tough position?
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