A long-term couple with two children is facing a difficult decision about their children's last names. The father has a double-barrelled surname, with the first name being difficult for English people to pronounce correctly, as detailed in a Mumsnet post.
*This is a work of non-fiction sourced from social media discussion boards and verified experts/specialists.*
The author continues that her husband has a complicated last name, and when it is mispronounced, it rhymes with the mother's first name, which is not a pleasant sound. She explains further:
“When we had our children we double-barrelled their surnames (not my preference) with my surname first and then the second part of his surname. I’m not keen on this. I would prefer they just have my surname or just the second part of his surname.”
Couples choosing names must consider the implications of their decision and how it will affect their children. There are a variety of options available, such as taking the mother's surname, the father's surname, or a double-barrelled surname, and each has their own advantages and drawbacks, as recommended by Very Well Family.
The author’s main concern is that she doesn’t want her kids to have a name that is hard to pronounce or could be teased, as she concludes with her post:
"[My partner] says he feels strongly tied to the ‘Lawn’ surname and is hurt that his children don’t have it. My attitude is very much that I don’t care much about their surname, but I care that they have a surname that I could take if we were to get married, and that they don’t have a name that is hard to pronounce or could be teased.”
Online users had thoughts and weighed in, with one stating:
“I think it’s a bit unfair to change the children’s surnames now. Can’t you all just keep your own names as they are currently, seems the easiest and fairest.”
“So it would be both his names, or just swapping out his name for the other one? Either way he is being ridiculous to be attached to a name, millions of women lose their name every day.”
What do you think?
Is the author justified in not wanting to change her child’s name after the fact, and her husband should just let this go?
Or it is important that the husband’s choice be respected as well, and if he wants to change his child’s name, that request should be taken seriously?
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