Woman who wants to avoid $400 bachelorette party shamed for being able to afford it, still refusing to attend

Gillian Sisley

A bride-to-be's bachelorette night has been met with an unexpected obstacle: it's too expensive. One woman writes in her Mumsnet post about how she’s thinking of skipping out for the sake of her bank account.

*This is a work of non-fiction sourced from social media discussion boards and verified experts/specialists.*

The author begins by explaining that she’s meant to attend a bachelorette party soon, and initially thought the evening would cost around $180 USD. However, the author received a nasty surprise, as she details:

"I said I would go to the hen night, figured it'd cost in/around £150 and [to be honest] was quite looking forward to a facial/massage. But £320? Absolutely not.”

The author now faces the difficult task of telling the bride and her family that she will not be attending the hen night, which would cost close to $400.

What's more, she has no intention of attending the wedding either, which puts her in an even more precarious position. She continues:

"How do I word the text that I'm not going? I'm definitely not going. Problem is, the bride and family know I can afford it. I don't even want to go to the wedding either. I literally just don't want to pay £320 for something I'm not overly fussed on."

When it comes to deciding whether or not to attend a wedding, it can be difficult to make the right decision and do so in a polite way, as detailed by Brides.com. According to the Real Simple blog, even if a pre-wedding event is something a person is excited for, it's important to take one’s budget into consideration. As this woman's experience shows, it's not always easy to say no, but sometimes it's the best decision.

When asked what advice other’s had to give to those in a similar situation, one user said:

"Try to be as honest as possible. If you feel like it's too expensive for you, then explain that. Honesty is the best policy. At the end of the day, you have to do what's best for you."

Ultimately, the author chose not to attend the hen night, and she's come to terms with the fact that she won't be going to the wedding either. She concludes:

"I don't want to be obligated to go to the wedding because I attended the hen night.”

What do you think?

Is the author completely justified in not attending the bachelorette party, as it will cost almost $400, and she isn’t even planning on attending the wedding itself?

Or is the author being inconsiderate by not attending, and since this is a once-in-a-lifetime event for her friend, she should suck up the costs and go anyway?

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