A married couple is struggling to adjust to the physical changes that come after having babies. With two-year-old twins, the wife's body has changed significantly, and the husband has written on Reddit about how he tried to talk about his wife’s physical activity and health post-partum.
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The author, a 32-year-old husband of nine years, shared on Reddit that he and his wife have three children together, a 7-year-old and two 2-year-old twins. There have been a lot of changes since the twins’ birth, as he explains in his post:
“My wife has always been pretty petite. Before our twins, she was probably 120-125 lbs. She is now 180. She has shown no attempt to lose the weight and no longer goes to the gym. She use to always be in the gym, 4 days a week.”
It’s common for couples to struggle with the physical changes that come after having kids, and it’s important for them to understand each other’s feelings and to communicate openly. BabyCenter reports that post-partum weight gain is common after having a baby. Healthline also details how it is often an emotional psychological journey for the person who has given birth, as they must now adapt to a new body they don’t quite recognize.
In the wake of the husband’s concerns, the couple had a disagreement when he pointed out that she still had her baby weight. He continues:
“The other night she was complaining her new jeans no longer fit and I pointed out that she still has her baby weight. She got really upset and said I basically called her unattractive. I told her I thought she was beautiful and that wasn’t supposed to be an insult, just that she hasn’t lost it yet. She then got defensive and said she carried two babies in her body and what did I expect?”
The husband claims he was simply trying to be honest and open with his wife, but his comment was taken offensively and the couple had a tense night afterward. He concludes:
“We are open about things, I never meant for it to be taken so negatively, or to insult her. She slept as far to the wall as she could get, and had an attitude with me for the rest of the night.”
Women’s bodies go through a massive transformation after they have a baby and it’s understandable that it’s a sensitive topic for them. It’s important for couples to be understanding of each other and to speak openly and non-judgmentally.
What do you think?
Was the author justified in being upset after her husband commented on her weight after having twins, and her partner is being insensitive?
Or is the author being overly sensitive, and her husband only said something because he was looking out for her well-being and health?
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