Man who lives in 3-bedroom house branded as 'selfish' for refusing to let broke friend and fiancee move in

Gillian Sisley

A man who owns a property has been labeled as a ‘terrible person’ after he refused to let his friend move in with his partner after they fell on hard times. He’s turned to Reddit to find out whether or not he was justified to turn them away.

*This is a work of non-fiction sourced from social media discussion boards and verified experts/specialists.*

The 28-year-old author starts off by explaining that he owns a 3-bedroom house, and happily lives by himself. That said, his best friend recently came upon hard times. The author clarifies in his post:

“Tom and Kat have come into financial issues, and are unable to pay for their rent. As it stands, they can either move in with Kat's parents, who live roughly 2 hours away, or they can move in with me, until they find another place to rent.”

The rental housing market in the United States is currently in crisis, with not enough units available at an affordable price to match the demand of individuals who currently need housing, as explained by American Progress.

Though the author recognizes that this is a great deal for Tom and Kat, since Tom would still be close to work and friends, and live in a great area, the author himself isn’t so keen:

“The idea of living with someone, let alone two people, does not sit well with me. I have one bedroom where I sleep, the other two bedrooms are my home office and my library. Furthermore, I love the feeling of coming home to an empty house.”

That said, when he explained this to Tom and Kat, they weren’t happy:

“They called me selfish for not sacrificing for them. They said a true friend would help. So I told them the blunt truth. I would be happy to help Tom. He works full time and would respect my space. But I did not want Kat to live with me. Reasons being; she doesn't work, so she would be in my home much more than me.”

As if this weren’t honest enough, the author justified his decision in even more detail to the couple:

“Tom has told me privately he gets frustrated that he comes home from work and still has to prepare dinner and do most of the chores. I told Kat, she's lucky she is with someone who tolerates her and loves her, but I'm not like Tom. I'm not dealing with it. Kat breaks down crying at this point and calls me evil. I apologise to Tom and I tell him he knows my stance.”

This interaction happened a year ago, and the couple has since been living 2 hours away with Kat’s parents. Though the author feels justified in his decision, Kat’s friends have gone out of their way to tell him he’s a ‘terrible person’ for putting Kat and Tom in a situation that could ‘end their relationship.

What do you think?

Should the author have been more considerate as a friend and made the sacrifices to take in a couple in need?

Or is the author entirely within his right to live how he wants to live, and he is more than justified to protect the peace and sanctuary he has created for himself in the home he owns and pays for?

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