A first-time mother of 3 2-month-old triplets is being accused of abuse by her fiance for taking a minute to herself outside of the home while their three babies cried upstairs. She has written a post on Reddit to find out whether or not she was a bad mom for what she did.
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The author, a 20-year-old woman, is a first-time mom and is feeling in over her head. The pregnancy alone was a surprise, but when she learned that she and her partner, a 24-year-old man, would be having triplets, she wasn’t quite sure what they would do.
The number of triplets born in the US each year is 2.738 sets, resulting in about 79 sets born out of every 1,000 births, according to the CDC.
The couple have taken things in strides since the births. Still, with the author being a stay-at-home mom with 2-month-old triplets, it’s understandable that she can feel overwhelmed.
She further explains:
“Sometimes I just need some fresh air especially when I can't get them to stop crying and I find myself getting super frustrated to the point of tears, it's honestly soo hard and the dad isn't here to help as he's either at work or at school.”
She continues that her fiance’s parents have rented a ground-floor apartment for the couple, and so when she steps outside to sit in a chair, she’s right near the front door of the complex. She does add that she brings the baby monitor out with her, just to ensure things are okay with the babies.
This practice has been a lifesaver, as she clarifies:
“Being able to step outside for a few minutes to take a breather is really important to me because I start to have mini panic attacks when I can't get them to stop crying and I get really frustrated because I just feel super overwhelmed. Being able to go outside just gives me a chance to [calm] down.”
However, though the author feels this is the right and responsible thing to do, her fiance doesn’t quite feel the same way. She explains:
“He freaked out on me calling me a horrible mom. He thinks that I was being super neglectful and putting the babies in harm's way and even told his parents and now everyone seems to be really against me.”
Parenting is hard enough, but it can become exceptionally more difficult when raising multiple newborns at the same time. As Parenting First Cry explains, triplets cost more, require more energy from their parents, and a lot take more logistical planning.
What do you think?
Is the fiance right in that the mother of his children was being neglectful by stepping outside of the home while the babies were crying upstairs?
Or is this new mom actually doing the safest thing for her babies by taking a moment to calm herself down when frustrated, before she returns to her crying newborns to keep providing care as a stay-at-home mom?
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