Man Refuses to Fund Ritzy Lifestyle of Girlfriend

Gillian Sisley

Is it ever fair to expect a partner to pay all your expenses?

Relationships can come in all shapes and sizes. Depending on the people involved, they get to make the rules and decide how to navigate their partnership together.

With that said, sometimes partners aren't exactly on the same page regarding what their expectations or goals are in a relationship. When this reality comes to light, it often is accompanied by some form of conflict.

These realities were highlighted in a recent online post in which a woman demands that her boyfriend finance her entire lifestyle, and feels justified in her expectation.

Is it ever fair to expect a partner to pay all your expenses?

A Reddit post published on November 28th, reported on by Ashley Gale from Newsweek, has gone viral with 10,500 upvotes and 1700 comments.

The author begins his post by explaining that he is 27 years old, and has a 23-year-old girlfriend. He also adds that his girlfriend and her equally as pretty friends like to party with rich men.

He and his girlfriend have been together for a couple of years now, and the author explains that he makes a decent living in the low six figures. With bonuses, he can get a good salary every year. He's been able to pay off most of his house and has graduated without student debt.

The author is on track to potentially retire young so that he can enjoy his life to the fullest. The way that he is accomplishing this is by saving most of his money, and intentionally putting it away in savings.

However, he adds that his girlfriend is ‘jealous’ of her friends, because they get ‘lavish gifts from their rich boyfriends’ and get to go out to dinner all the time. While the author and his girlfriend have plans for a future together, she keeps bringing up how all of her friends get expensive things from their ‘admirers’, but she doesn't get lavish things from her partner.

Where should a person draw the line when it comes to buying gifts for their partner?

After many complaints from his girlfriend, the author snapped at her and said that he ‘couldn't afford to be her sugar daddy’. She argued that it wasn't like that for her friends, but he clapped back saying that her friends ‘don't make enough money to support the lifestyles’ they have. He even pointed out that one of her girlfriends drives a Lexus that's worth $100,000, and she works part-time as a restaurant hostess.

The author's girlfriend was very offended by this comment, and accused him of ‘judging her friends’. She then asked if he feels that way about her since he makes 6x her income, but he said that he was ‘proud’ to have a teacher for a girlfriend, and that they just need to be intentional about where they put their money.

What do you think? Was the author entirely justified to call out his girlfriend for expecting him to fund her lavish lifestyle when he has other goals for his finances? Or was he truly judging her friends, and thus her, for wanting to spend money on things like gifts and eating out when they don't have the finances to fund such a lifestyle themselves?

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