Woman Dumps 'Overprotective Dad' After Jealousy Over 11-Year-Old Daughter

Gillian Sisley

Is there such a thing as being too protective as a parent?

There's no one-size-fits-all when it comes to parenting a child, and depending on the child's personality and the values of a parent, parenting styles can differ immensely from one to the other.

With that said, there is a societal stereotype that fathers are especially overprotective when it comes to their daughters, using this as a reason to enforce potentially unreasonable limitations on girls.

These realities were highlighted in a recent online post in which a woman decides that she's breaking up with her boyfriend, who claims to just be an overprotective father, after he makes a shocking accusation towards her.

Is there such a thing as being too protective as a parent?

A Reddit post published on November 21st, reported on by Lucy Notarantonio from Newsweek, has gone viral with 9,400 upvotes and close to 1,000 comments.

The author begins her post by explaining that she is 45 years old and she has a 44-year-old boyfriend. Her boyfriend also has two daughters, ages 13 and 11 years old.

The author adds that she and the 11-year-old ‘clicked right away’ because they have very similar personalities. On Mondays and Tuesdays, it was common for the author to tag along with her boyfriend and his 11-year-old daughter to play dates, with herself and the child making jokes and ‘having a blast together’.

She'd even overheard the little girl tell her dad that he's 'had a lot of terrible girlfriends' and she really likes the author, so 'please don't screw this one up'. With that said, about a month ago some plans were canceled so the 11-year-old ended up hanging out with the author and her boyfriend. Everything was innocent, until the author's boyfriend started to behave strangely.

The author and the 11-year-old were watching TV together, when the little girl leaned up against the author to make herself more comfortable. This was something that the author's own 13-year-old son would do as well, so it wasn't at all strange for her. However, when her boyfriend entered the room, he started giving her the 'evil eye'.

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The couple later had a conversation in private in which the boyfriend accused the author of having 'ill intentions' when it came to his daughter. The author was 'sickened' by this suggestion, and he explained to her that he was just 'an overprotective dad' and that his little girl was impressionable and he 'wanted to protect her'. The author apologized, and they moved on from it.

The final nail in the coffin for the author was during Thanksgiving, when she stayed at a lakehouse with her boyfriend and his daughters. The author and the 11-year-old went for a walk by the lakeside, and the 13-year-old decided she didn't want to go. When they returned from the walk, her boyfriend was once again upset that she’d gone off with the 11-year-old, telling her 'he knows how she is'. When she asked for clarification of what he meant, he alluded to the fact that the author is bisexual, and it made him 'uncomfortable' that she would be alone with his daughter at any point in time.

The author explains that this comment absolutely broke her heart, and she then decided that she could no longer be with this man after the accusations he'd made against her.

What do you think? Is the father just being a good dad and protecting his daughters from potential harm? Or does it appear that he is jealous of his youngest daughter's relationship with his girlfriend, and thus is throwing out ridiculous accusations that are completely inappropriate?

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