Man Refuses to Let Parents Pay for IVF Treatments for Sister

Gillian Sisley

Should family pitch in to help with infertility?

For many adults, eventually starting a family and having children is a goal that they have. It may be something that is more important to some compared to others.

With that said, there is nothing more devastating to someone who wants children than the struggle of infertility. It's estimated that 1 in 6 couples in the United States struggle with infertility, meaning that they are unable to carry a pregnancy to term or get pregnant after 1 year of trying.

These realities were highlighted in a recent online post in which a man's sister needs more IVF treatments, and she asks her parents for money, but he insists that his parents should not pay.

Should family pitch in to help with infertility?

A Reddit post published on August 13th, reported on by Alice Gibbs from Newsweek, has gone viral with 12,000 upvotes and 3,400 comments.

The author begins his post by explaining his sister is 28 years old, and has been married for 6 years now. She has been trying to have a baby for over 3 years, but unfortunately has not been successful.

A year and a half ago, the sister and her husband came to the parents and asked if they would finance a round of IVF treatment. Though the author's parents only had little savings aside from their retirement fund, they agreed to help pay for it.

The author states that he himself even threw in a few hundred dollars as a way to support his sister. Unfortunately, the IVF did not succeed, which obviously devastated the couple.

IVF treatments are not a cheap endeavor.

Invitro fertilization is often used as a last resort in getting pregnant, due to the expensive nature of it and the fact that it is not exactly an enjoyable process to go through. The average cost of IVF in the United States is about $12,000.

Just recently, the sister and her husband once again approached the author's parents and asked for them to help fund another round of IVF treatments. The author says that his parents were at first hesitant, but they ultimately agreed because his sister was crying.

However, noticing his parents' hesitancy, he spoke up and said that it ‘wasn't right for his sister to ask his parents for money again’. There was a bit of an argument following that, which resulted in a big fight. The author’s sister told him that it was none of his business, and he retorted that if she can't pay for the treatments then she needs to accept that she just can't afford to have a kid right now.

The argument continued on, with the author's mother stating that it ‘wasn't his business how they chose to spend their money’. The author argued that one child was being given tens of thousands of dollars over the other, so it's only fair that the author himself be given an equal amount of money. His sister argued that it was for a medical condition, but the author stated that this ‘wasn't a legitimate condition’ to warrant tens of thousands of dollars being gifted from their parents.

What do you think? Is the author entirely right in that his parents shouldn't pull from their retirement to help fund another round of IVF treatments, and they should leave that to their daughter to figure out? Or is it really none of the author’s business, and he should just stay out of it, even if it means his parents drain their own retirement fund to try and help his sister get pregnant?

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