Woman Refuses to Let 'Affair Child' of Husband Visit

Gillian Sisley

Does a person have a responsibility to bond with the child their spouse had through an affair?

Marriage isn't an easy relationship to maintain and navigate throughout the years. It takes a lot of dedication, patience, and a willingness to grow together to make it work.

One of the things that can be a deal breaker and lead to divorce is if one partner chooses to step outside of the marriage and be unfaithful. This betrayal can sting even more when a child results from the affair.

These realities were highlighted in a recent online post in which a woman refuses to let her husband's affair baby visit her home, and he shames her for not making an effort to get to know his child.

Does a person have a responsibility to bond with the child their spouse had through an affair?

A Reddit post published on July 19th, reported on by Samantha Berlin from Newsweek, has gone viral with 7,500 upvotes and 1,800 comments.

The author begins her post by explaining she discovered her husband had an affair after his other baby was born out of wedlock. She explains that she had never been okay with the situation, and that the affair caused her a lot of emotional and mental distress throughout the years.

She even states that she would have divorced her husband by now if she wasn't stuck in what she calls a 'legal dead end that makes it not possible'. In order for her and her husband to get divorced, they would have to have been separated for at least a year.

However, her husband refuses to move out, and instead, they created a notarized agreement that detailed how their finances are operated and how they share the custody of their children. The author also included the comment that she didn't want to file for divorce based on adultery because she felt it could make the situation that they're in 'hostile'.

Adultery can absolutely destroy a marriage.

The author goes on to explain that because her husband travels a lot, and because she spends her time between her own baby, her parents and her career, she's been able to avoid many situations regarding the affair for the last few years. But it's now two years later, and the author's husband wants to bring his affair child to her house to spend the night.

Her husband recently came to an agreement with his other child's mom to allow him visitation at his own residence. But the author explains that she is not the child's stepmother, and that the house the married couple are living in is exclusively owned by herself, and her husband has no ownership of it. She has ultimately refused to let the child visit.

Her husband, however, is not taking ‘no’ for an answer. He has told his wife that she has to 'deal with it' because they're married, and she needs to accept his son as her stepchild. Her husband's family also accused her of being a 'witch' for 'preventing the siblings from having a relationship'.

The author ultimately feels that it would be detrimental to her mental health to be forced to accept the affair baby as her stepchild, and refuses to entertain building a bond or relationship with him.

What do you think? Is the author truly being cruel by refusing to let her husband's affair child visit their home? Or is it in no way her responsibility to create a bond with a child who was born as a result of her husband's affair, and that's his problem to resolve, not hers?

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