Woman Refuses to Visit Terminally Ill Mother to Make Amends

Gillian Sisley

Should children always forgive their parents for any trauma caused during childhood?

Most people set out to do the best job they can when they become a parent. With that said, not everyone puts their children before themselves.

It's also possible that parents are suffering from their own personal traumas, which they then project onto their children, creating a generational effect where many people struggle with some sort of mental or emotional difficulty.

These realities were highlighted in a recent online post in which a woman refuses to visit her dying mother so that they can make amends again before the mother passes away.

Should children always forgive their parents for any trauma caused during childhood?

A Reddit post published on July 12th, reported on by Samantha Berlin from Newsweek, has gone viral with 15,900 upvotes and 2,400 comments.

The author begins her post by explaining that her sibling suffered from a serious illness as a child. For that reason, the author's birth parents tried to have another child so that they could use the second child's bone marrow to cure their first child.

However, in a shocking turn of events, the author reveals that when her birth mother learned that she could not donate her bone marrow to her sick sibling, the birth mother decided to give the author up. Thankfully, the author's grandmother offered to raise her instead.

The parents apparently had another child a year later who ended up being a match for their sick child, so they decided to keep that newborn. The author adds that though she was raised by her grandmother she was always aware that her biological parents ‘didn't want her’, and she always knew who they were.

What is a Savior Sibling?

A savior sibling, often referred to as a backup child, is conceived with the purpose of providing some sort of organ, bone marrow or cell transplant to a sibling who suffers from a fatal sickness.

The author adds that her grandmother left her entire inheritance to the four children she raised, which included the author herself. Her birth mother wasn't pleased with this, as she felt she deserved more of a cut of the inheritance. But after several years she is now dying from a disease, and has asked that the author meet with her so that can she apologize and reach a place of forgiveness before the birth mother passes away.

The author has ultimately refused to meet with her birth mother to offer her forgiveness before the woman passes away, and she is receiving a lot of backlash from family for this decision.

What do you think? Should the author meet with her birth mother and forgive her so that she can pass away peacefully? Or is the author entirely within her right to refuse to meet with her birth mother, because that woman made her bed and now she has to lie in it?

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