Are some ultimatums too extreme?
While marriage isn't exactly the easiest relationship to maintain, there are some who practice such unhealthy habits that it can make maintaining a healthy marriage feel impossible.
One of the vows that said on a wedding day is that the couple agrees to be there for one another ‘for richer and for poorer’, and especially for the last few years throughout the pandemic, these vows have come into play more than ever for some couples.
This reality was highlighted in a recent online post in which a wife refuses to let her husband continue using the internet in their home until he pays for it.
Are some ultimatums too extreme?
A Reddit post published on May 30th, reported on by Maria Azzurra Volpe from Newsweek, has gone viral with 20,300 upvotes and 2,200 comments.
The author begins her post by explaining that her husband recently lost his job because he was ‘fired by a narcissistic boss’, and he's been looking for a new job for 3 months. The author has been the main financial provider for the household since then.
With that said, she recently bumped into her husband's old boss at the supermarket, and was shocked to find that her husband wasn't fired but rather left voluntarily.
When she got home she confronted her husband about the situation, and even pointed out that he was spending too much time on the internet when he was supposed to be looking for a job. The husband then admitted that he hated the industry he'd been in and wanted to do something different, such as getting a degree to start a new career.
The wife then asked her husband how he was planning to pay for school and he just shrugged, suggesting that she start a ‘fund to support his education’ with her own salary, because he planned to never work in retail again.
The pandemic has resulted in a lot of lost jobs.
Many families took a hard hit when they lost their jobs due to the pandemic, and that in itself was no one's fault but was just a reality of the economy. With that said, the workforce has since opened back up, and there are an immense amount of job openings available. The current job market is considered a ‘job seeker market’, as there are far more jobs available than there are applicants to fill them.
Furious about the situation, and the fact that her husband refused to get another job to help finance the house, the author went and changed the Wi-Fi password to their internet.
After changing the password, she told her husband that she would be willing to give him access to the internet again once he started paying for bills. She said this as a way to prompt her husband to go find a job in the meantime, even if he wanted to go back to school to pursue another career.
What do you think? Was the author's ultimatum justified, and she should stick to her guns? Or was her ultimatum cruel, and she should still give her husband internet access even if he's refusing to work to help pay for the bills?
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