Dad Disposes of Homemade Gift from Daughter

Gillian Sisley

Can anything justify being outwardly spiteful towards your spouse?

There's a reason that not everyone gets married, but one of the biggest is that it's just not an easy relationship to maintain. Marriage takes an immense amount of commitment and work from year to year.

But just because this is what is required to have a healthy marriage, does not mean that everyone follows this philosophy. Some relationships can be emotionally abusive, while others may have spiteful spouses who will go above and beyond to try and prove their partner is wrong.

These realities were highlighted in a recent online post in which a dad gets in a fight with his wife, and in order to spite her he throws out a precious necklace that their daughter made for her mom.

Can anything justify being outwardly spiteful towards your spouse?

A Reddit post published on May 17th, reported on by Anders Anglesey from Newsweek, has gone viral with 15,000 upvotes and 2,900 comments.

The author begins her post by explaining that she and her husband have regular disagreements, and they don't handle conflict very well. Her husband has made a habit of throwing her things away to 'teach her a lesson' when he is in conflict with her.

While this behavior alone is rather upsetting, the husband took it to a whole new level recently when he decided to throw away an item that the wife cherished that was made for her by their 13-year-old daughter.

The author explains that her husband wanted to hang out with his friends on the same night that her mother was going in for surgery, and the author told him that he couldn't go out. She needed him to be home with their daughter so that she could look after her mother post-op. He was so angry that she wouldn't let him go out with his friends that he lashed out and threw away a precious homemade necklace.

Spitefulness in a relationship may not just be petty, it might be abusive.

If a partner destroys your belongings, it could be a red flag to the fact that you are in an abusive relationship. Throwing out or destroying a person's property can symbolize a lack of control and respect for a partner.

When the author confronted her husband about the incident, he admitted that he did throw the necklace out, and she absolutely blew up at him. She told him that the necklace was special to her, especially because their daughter had spent so much time and effort making it for her.

The daughter attempted to comfort her mom by saying that she'd make another one as long as she got the tools, and the author thought that this was fair as long as her husband paid for everything needed. Instead of agreeing, he laughed at his wife and said that she was "delusional to expect him to pay when she hasn't even apologized for her part of the argument yet”. He then accused his wife and daughter of ganging up on him.

What do you think? Was the author's demand fair in that her husband should pay for the tools so that the daughter can make a new necklace? Or is the husband right to think this is ridiculous, and she needs to take responsibility for her part in the argument that resulted in him throwing out her belongings?

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