Man Blames 'Declining Health' on Wife's Cancer

Gillian Sisley

Sickness is hard on more people than just the one diagnosed.

Cancer is a ferocious beast. Data shows that in 2018 alone, 1.7 million new cancer cases were reported in the US, and unfortunately, 600,000 people died due to cancer.

An illness doesn't just affect the person who is diagnosed, but it also affects loved ones too. Mental health experts state that it is common for cancer survivors to have PTSD and trauma following their diagnosis, even if they survived it and are in remission. It can also be a traumatic time for loved ones as well.

This sort of situation was highlighted in a recent online post in which a husband blames a woman's cancer diagnosis for every inconvenience in his life.

Sickness is hard on more people than just the one diagnosed.

A Reddit post published on April 27th, reported on by Sarah Santora from Newsweek, has gone viral with 14,300 upvotes and 1,000 comments.

The author begins her post by clarifying that she was unfortunately diagnosed with cancer several months ago. Due to this, her husband had to cancel an employment contract so that he could become her primary caregiver.

The author states that her husband drives her to the hospital and helps her take medication, and she's very grateful for this. However, her husband does have a habit blaming every inconvenience in his life on her cancer diagnosis.

For example, he will comment on having to drive in the middle of the night for medicine because of 'her cancer' diagnosis. And that if it wasn't for 'her cancer' he'd still have his employment contract. But things finally came to a head for the author when her husband chose to blame his own 'declining health' on her illness.

The symptoms of undergoing cancer treatment are incredibly debilitating.

Receiving treatment for cancer is exhausting, both emotionally and physically. Some expected symptoms are nausea, fatigue, loss of appetite, joint discomfort, and much more.

The author states that her husband was in the kitchen cooking a frozen meal in the microwave, and he told her, "Because of YOUR cancer now my health is declining because all I eat is frozen junk since you can't even cook!"

After this comment about eating unhealthy food, she finally snapped. She told him that her cancer ‘isn't a choice’, and that she's clearly not happy with it. But with that said, his constant remarks have gone much too far, and he 'needs to stop'.

What do you think? Was the author entirely justified in snapping at her husband after his recurring comments blaming her sickness for everything that goes wrong in his life? Or does the author need to recognize that the two of them are going through this experience together, and it's also hard on her spouse, thus the reason he complains so much?

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