Woman Credits Herself for Marriage Success of Ex and New Wife

Gillian Sisley

Who takes the most authority, the ex-wife or the new wife?

Marriage isn't always a walk in the park, and for many couples, it's just not something that they can make work in the long run. Data shows that over 650,000 divorces were finalized in the US in 2020 alone.

And among the couples that divorce, 1/3 of them will have children together. Also worth noting that most couples that become divorced are likely to remarry other spouses down the road.

These realities were highlighted in a recent online post in which a woman corrects her ex-husband's new wife, embarrassing her in front of family members.

Who takes the most authority, the ex-wife or the new wife?

A Reddit post published on April 24th, reported on by Rebecca Flood from Newsweek, has gone viral with 12,300 upvotes and 750 comments. The author begins her post by clarifying that she is 48-years-old, and she and her husband Jim were married for two decades. They have three children together, ranging from ages 18 to 22.

The author reveals that the two separated five years ago, but they still have an amicable relationship, even having monthly dinners just between the parents and children. She also adds that both she and Jim have since remarried, and Jim's new wife recently gave birth to their first child together last year.

She explains that the reason for the divorce was mostly due to her husband's long working hours, resulting in the neglect of his family, especially after their daughter was diagnosed with cancer. This information is important because it was at a recent family dinner that Jim's new wife was going on and on about how wonderful a husband and father Jim is to her and their daughter.

The author opted not to say anything, but when the new wife noticed her silence she looked at the author and asked ‘why she would ever give Jim up’. She also made a rude comment about how the author was too busy falling in love with her husband's best friend to 'give her husband the love that he deserved'.

After the new wife's snide comment, the author looked at her and explained that Jim hadn't been such a great husband when he was with her, but that it was wonderful to see that he was better now. She also added that she was willing to make 'a ton of sacrifices so that he could have a successful career', and that the new wife should be grateful to the author for that specific fact.

Every relationship is different.

Relationships come in all shapes and sizes, and look entirely different based on the partnership of the individuals involved. It is also important to realize that life and previous relationship experience play a massive role in dictating how a person behaves moving forward in future interactions.

Pretty much everyone at the dinner laughed at the author's retort, including Jim, but his wife was very angry about it and later texted the author telling her how ‘hurt’ she was that she'd insulted the new wife and Jim at Easter dinner.

The author was willing to let this whole feud go, however, the new wife was insistent on continuing it forward. That was when the author explained to the new wife that her marriage to Jim was very different than the marriage he had now, and she was happy to see that they were happy together, but that didn't mean the new wife got to 'rewrite history or comment on the type of husband' Jim was to the author.

What do you think? Was the author's retort to the new wife completely valid, considering that the new wife was the one to throw shade first? Or was the author's come-back out of line, and did she directly disrespect her ex-husband and how his wife perceives him?

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