Woman Refuses to Let In-Laws into Delivery Room for Birth of Baby

Gillian Sisley

Do in-laws have the right to witness the birth of their grandchildren?

Having a baby is an exciting time for many people, including extended family and loved ones. With over 3.6 million babies being born every year in the US, this is an experience that many get to have.

With that said, it can be difficult to navigate expectations related to raising the child, and even the birth event. Some in-laws may demand that they be present for the birth of their grandchildren, regardless of the expectant parents’ wishes or desires.

This sort of situation was highlighted in a recent online post in which a woman refuses to allow her in-laws to be in the delivery room for the birth of their grandchild, resulting in family conflict.

Do in-laws have the right to witness the birth of their grandchildren?

A Reddit post published on April 27th, reported on by Ashley Gale from Newsweek, has gone viral with 18,400 upvotes and 3,700 comments.

The author begins her post by clarifying that she is 6 months pregnant with her second child, and unfortunately, has a very bitter relationship with her mother-in-law. The mother-in-law does not approve of the author or her family, and doesn't think that the wife is good enough for her son.

When discussing the upcoming birth, the author's husband asked if she would ever consider allowing his mother to be in the delivery room. The author made it clear that she was not comfortable with this option, and would prefer to have her own mother in the room.

However, when the author further clarified that she only wanted her husband and her own mom in the room, her husband became very upset that she didn't want his mother there. The husband even added that because this was their second kid and the wife got to choose who was in the room the first time, he should get to choose this time.

She told her husband that ‘he was insane’ if he thought that she would let her mother-in-law witness her in extreme pain, and emphasized that it would be an incredibly uncomfortable situation.

In-laws can cause a lot of conflict in marriages.

If couples allow their in-laws to create a wedge between them, they can greatly increase their risk of separation and recurring conflict. This sort of issue can marinate over time, leading to unhealthy blow-ups.

After refusing to let her husband's mother in the delivery room, the husband stormed out of the house and hasn't been home since. The author called his friends to see if he was with them, and even called her mother-in-law to see if she'd seen him. She stated that she hadn't.

The author is now wondering if she was in the wrong for refusing to allow her mother-in-law and father-in-law in the delivery room with her for the birth of her second child. She's worried that her husband is very upset, and fears that she's driven him away.

What do you think? Does the husband have a point in that since the author got to choose who was in the delivery room for the first birth, he should get to choose who is in it for the second? Or does the husband need to appreciate that his wife is the one who will be in the compromising and painful position, and her comfort levels while giving birth should be the top priority?

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