Man Refuses to Pay for Dinner Bill After Anti-Gay Joke

Gillian Sisley

A person’s lifestyle choice should never be the butt of a joke.

Being a member of the LGBTQIA+ community is in no way easy. Community members are often subjected to everyday acts of homophobia, hate speech, and discrimination. Data shows that 1 in 5 members of the LGBTQIA+ community has experienced street harassment while going about their daily lives.

With that said, one of the last places that many would expect to experience this sort of harassment would be among family, however, it isn't uncommon for loved ones to be critical of a person's lifestyle choices.

These realities were highlighted in a recent online post in which a straight man reaches his boiling point and refuses to pay for his family's bill at a restaurant after his sister makes recurring homophobic jokes toward him.

A person’s lifestyle choice should never be the butt of a joke.

A Reddit post published on April 25th, reported on by Sophie Lloyd from Newsweek, has gone viral with 10,200 upvotes and almost 1,000 comments.

The author, who identifies as a straight man, begins his post by stating that his sister has been bullying him for the last 14 years of his life. He explains that his older sister has insinuated that he is suppressing his sexuality, and has been doing so since they were kids. She repeatedly calls him gay and demands that he come out publicly.

With that in mind, the author has been with his girlfriend Linda for the last 4 years, and is very comfortable with his sexuality. That said, the author recently invited his family members and girlfriend out for dinner, with the understanding that he would be paying for it.

However, for the entire dinner, the author's sister wouldn't stop calling him gay. She had been trying to persuade him that he was gay since he was 16, and would always bring it up in conversation with family. However, after over a decade of this harassment, the author finally reached his boiling point when his sister targeted his girlfriend instead.

The sister essentially accused the author of using his girlfriend as a cover to hide the fact that he's gay, and teased him that he "didn't need to hide this anymore because they were all family". Despite repeated warnings of telling his sister to stop disrespecting his relationship, she continued on.

A person's lifestyle choices are not the business of anyone else.

While the author in the story is not a member of the LGBTQIA+ community, this situation highlights how the legitimate lifestyle of others is used as a casual and recurring insult in everyday life. This in itself is homophobic aggression towards the community as a whole.

The sister's continual statements about how the author was using his girlfriend as a cover started to make the girlfriend very uncomfortable, and she was feeling incredibly disrespected. The sister then further crossed the line by stating that the author was in a ‘secret relationship’ with one of his best friends, which almost made his girlfriend cry.

After that final insult, the author paid for himself and his girlfriend's meals and then left the restaurant. Though he was originally intending to pay for everyone at the table, following the verbal abuse, he decided his family could cover the cost of the meal themselves. His family members blew up his phone with texts, telling him he couldn't take a joke and that he was in the wrong for leaving them to pay for their own dinners.

What do you think? Was the author entirely justified to leave his family members with the bill after one of them repeatedly harassed and insulted him, and the others did nothing to intervene? Or was it just plain rude to invite everyone out for dinner, and then because they said something he didn't want to hear the author didn't pay for their meals?

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