Mother Refuses to Pay Kids Money for Housework

Gillian Sisley

Should children be compensated financially for contributing to housework?

Parenting is one of the most difficult jobs in the world. A parent is responsible for raising a productive and responsible member of society, and must equip their child with all the tools necessary so that they can be self-sufficient out in the world.

With that said, over 40% of households in the US have children, so many people are navigating the tricky balance of raising kids the best way, and the right way.

These realities were highlighted in a recent online post in which a daughter asks her mother if she can be paid for the chores she does around the house, and the mother laughs in her face.

Should children be compensated financially for contributing to housework?

A Reddit post published on April 1st, reported by Ashley Gale from Newsweek, has gone viral with 6,700 upvotes and 4,500 comments.

The author begins her post by clarifying that she is a single mother with two children, one who is 8-yearsold and one who is 15. While being a single mother is difficult, she describes a recent interaction with her oldest child that pushed her over the edge.

One evening, the 15-year-old daughter approached her mother and asked if she could be paid for doing the dishes, or any form of housework. The author responded to this request with laughter, causing her daughter to yell and scream at her.

The daughter expressed that most of her friends and classmates received some form of allowance from their parents in return for doing household chores. The author felt that this was ridiculous, and that children should be expected to contribute to the household, and shouldn't use it as an opportunity for financial gain.

When her daughter pushed back, her argument against an allowance was that the daughter could first repay the mother for all of the food and clothes she bought for her, as well as the free housing. Once that sum of money was reimbursed, the mother would consider an allowance for her kids.

Should children be paid for their labor?

While it is generally expected that children contribute to household chores, a survey from 2019 found that 2/3 of parents give their children money in exchange for doing chores in hopes of it creating a ‘positive learning experience’ for them. The average allowance for kids from the survey was $30 per week.

After some back and forth, the author stood her ground and refused to give her children any form of allowance. The daughter then got extremely angry, and stormed off to go to her room. The author is now wondering if she was in the wrong for refusing to give her children any form of allowance.

What do you think? Are parents obligated to give their children an allowance so that they can develop a sense of financial responsibility, and have some freedom? Or is allowance a privilege, not a right, and children should be expected to do chores around the house without anticipating financial compensation?

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