Groom Criticized for Excluding Disabled Brother-in-Law from Wedding

Gillian Sisley

When does the ambition to have the “perfect wedding” cross the line?

While weddings are an exciting time for many, they tend to bring along with them a lot of family politics and drama. Most married couples have a story about how someone in their family, or even a friend, went to unnecessary lengths to create conflict or difficulties.

With that said, it’s also estimated by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention that around 61 million adults in the US live with some sort of disability. This makes up roughly 26% of the American population.

These two realities are highlighted in a recent online post in which a groom chooses to exclude his sister's husband from his wedding, due to the fact that he's disabled.

When does the ambition to have the “perfect wedding” cross the line?

A Reddit post published on March 8th, reported on by Jack Beresford from Newsweek, has gone viral with 61,200 upvotes and 4,300 comments.

The author begins her post by clarifying that her husband has been bound to a wheelchair for the past 2 years after a serious accident. For that time, she has acted as a caregiver for her husband. She admits that the change in these dynamics has been difficult on their marriage, but they're pulling through.

With that said, the author's brother recently got married, and she was meant to attend the wedding. However, due to a recent conflict she opted not to go. She chose to skip out on the event after her brother sent an invitation but directly excluded her husband, implying that the reason for him not being invited was because he was in a wheelchair.

The groom ultimately asked his sister to come alone so that she could focus on the big day rather than being her husband’s caregiver. The author ultimately told her brother that if her husband wasn't invited, she wasn't going to come. She refused to let her husband feel shunned at an event for a disability he has no control over.

One should never turn to cruelty just for the sake of having their dream wedding.

Those living with disabilities represent a significant portion of the United States population. With that said, that does not mean that they are excluded from acts of everyday prejudice, even sometimes by their own loved ones.

The author concludes her post by stating that she ultimately refused to attend the wedding. But this resulted in some major criticism from the rest of her family, since her brother is her only sibling. Her parents are pressuring her to still go regardless, and they've accused her husband of being dramatic for not letting her go without him, even though it was ultimately her choice to not attend.

What do you think? Was the author entirely justified to refuse to attend her brother's wedding, since he intentionally excluded her husband for living with a disability? Or should the author have attended anyways, since this is her only sibling?

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