When does the desire for a ‘picture perfect’ wedding go too far?
The wedding industry is booming, and 2022 is ramping up to be one of the biggest financial years yet. Data shows, as of 2020, that the industry brings in over 60 billion dollars every year. Following many delays from the pandemic, in which engaged couples were forced to reschedule or postpone their big day, their nuptials are well overdue.
Weddings are, in general, a momentous time for many. It's a massive life event for the engaged couple, and is also an exciting time for loved ones to celebrate those they care about. However, one of the more difficult aspects of wedding planning is having to navigate the politics of those involved, which is exactly why so many couples have reported that coordinating their wedding guest list is the most complicated part of the process.
Each and every married couple has a story from their wedding of a guest being difficult and making an unnecessary mess of things. This exact reality was highlighted in a recent online post in which a groom uninvited his mother and sister from his wedding after they meddled with his fiancée’s wedding dress, in order to force her to wear the dress of their choosing.
How much involvement is too much when it comes to someone else's wedding?
A Reddit post published on February 16th, reported on by Taylor McCloud from Newsweek, has gone viral with 13,900 upvotes and 1,600 comments. The groom begins his post by clarifying that he’s getting married next month, and his mother and sister asked if they could tag along with his fiancée to shop for wedding dresses. The bride-to-be agreed, although she didn't really want them there with her.
However, during the appointment, things took a turn for the worst. The author's mother and sister showed his fiancée many different brands and styles, but she made it clear that she only had one in mind. They all went dress shopping together, however, the man's family tried to push his fiancée into picking a dress they liked, rather than the one she liked. The blushing bride ultimately found the dress she was looking for.
That said, after purchasing what she called her “dream wedding dress”, the bride noticed that it went missing. The engaged couple considered calling the police to report that the dress was stolen, but they were then interrupted by the man's mother and sister who showed up at their apartment with a shocking surprise. The mother and sister had bought another dress that they liked for the bride-to-be. The woman was very upset, as the dress wasn't anything like what she wanted.
The story only gets worse when the author found out that their neighbor saw his mother and sister show up at their apartment while the couple was at work, and leave with a big bag in tow. The author and his partner realized that the mother and sister had stolen the bride's wedding dress, simply because they didn’t like it, and wanted her to instead wear the dress they had picked out.
A wedding dress is no small matter, neither financially nor sentimentally.
There are many women who spend years and even decades fantasizing about their dream wedding dress. And a wedding dress is no small expense. According to Brides.com, dresses typically cost between $500 to $4,000, and in 2021 the national average cost of a dress was $1,631.
And weddings, in general, are an expensive venture. Statistica reports that the average wedding in the US in 2019 cost $33,900. That cost could instead pay off a significant chunk of student debt, or even cover a downpayment on a property, which is a valuable investment.
Once the author put the pieces together and realized what his mother and sister had done, he became incredibly angry with them and officially uninvited them to the wedding. The mother and sister were furious, believing that it wasn’t right for them to not attend their loved one’s wedding. The man is ultimately wondering if he went too far by barring his two family members from his big day.
What do you think? Did the author go too far by uninviting his mother and sister from the wedding, thus banning them from one of the most important days of his life? Or is he entirely justified for telling them they have to stay away, when they already have proven they'll go to any lengths to get the wedding day they want, regardless of what he and his bride want?