Is it reasonable to ban religious garments from weddings?
In an article written by NPR, data shows that over 1 million Muslim women live in America, and close to 43% of those women wear headscarves. Headscarves are a common item of clothing worn by a portion of practicing Muslim women as a religious symbol of devotion.
Since the terrorist attacks of 9/11, racist attacks against visibly Muslim people in America spiked, and have remained a consistent problem in the last 20 years. These tensions and hate crimes, to this day, are a significant national issue.
Cases of everyday discrimination against Muslims aren't hard to come by online. One online post highlights what these typical aggressions can look like when a visibly Muslim woman is asked by her friend to not wear a hijab to her wedding.
In a land that is meant to be tolerant, where individuals can live in freedom, data of everyday micro and macro aggressions against visible minorities are incredibly concerning.
Does anyone have the right to request the removal of religious garments?
A Reddit post published on January 25th, originally reported on by Ashley Gale from Newsweek, has gone viral with 15,000 upvotes and 2,100 comments. In the original post, the author explains that she is visibly Muslim and lives in a diverse area in the south where her culture and religion aren't questioned.
However, she continues that she has a friend who is planning to marry into a very conservative American family. The author states that she attended her friend's engagement party, and at that event, the future in-laws were discussing politics very loudly, and their views were the opposite of how the author felt. She noticed that throughout the evening the future in-laws were giving her odd looks, and making her feel very uncomfortable.
The following day, the friend called up the author and said that she had made the in-laws uncomfortable by being present and wearing a hijab at the party. The bride-to-be then asked the author if she could take off her hijab for the wedding so that she wouldn't scare the bride's future in-laws.
The author was horrified that she was asked such a thing, and absolutely refused, stating that she wouldn't be attending the wedding so as to not make the future in-laws “uncomfortable”.
Discrimination against Muslims in America is alive and well.
This case of blatant racism isn't anything new, and unfortunately is a common narrative among Muslim-presenting individuals. And these cases of racist attacks and aggressions are more often than not committed by White people.
The bride in the above story has been classified as a "bridezilla" online. A bridezilla is defined as someone who makes unreasonable and outlandish requests of their wedding party or wedding guests to satisfy a selfish need or desire, without regard for the feelings or comfort of others.
What do you think? Was it reasonable for the bride to ask her friend to remove her hijab for the wedding to ensure her in-laws were comfortable? Or was the author completely within her right to shut down this request and refuse to attend the wedding?