He wants to know if he is in the wrong for this decision.
In a viral Reddit post, a groom admits that he doesn't want his fiancee's sister in their wedding party, and he's wondering if he's justified in how he feels. With the wedding industry registered a revenue of $55 billion dollars in 2020, as reported by IBIS World, wedding choices can potentially lead to costly mistakes.
The post has collected 6,400 upvotes and 850 comments to date, since it was originally published on November 22nd.
Online readers have a lot to say about this man's decision.
A complicated past not easily forgotten.
A man under the username u/aita_weddingtroubles has taken to the internet to explain that his fiancee's sister lived with him and his future wife at one point while she was in college. During that time, however, the future sister-in-law frequently made the man uncomfortable in his own home.
"She would say things like 'you would look good in that' or 'I wish I could find someone like you'."
Matters only got worse after a few months of living with the man and his future wife. He explains,
"It [turned] into her accidentally walking in on me in the shower, spilling things on me so that I have to change clothes, saying that she should be in my fiancee's shoes, and constantly making comments about my body."
The man is too uncomfortable around his future sister-in-law.
The man goes on to say that he brought the comments and situations up to his fiancee, but she brushed him off saying that her sister's remarks were only a joke".
When the bride-to-be announced that she wanted her sister to be her Maid of Honor, the man objected.
He wrote,
"I told her everything I've brought up before, and said that her sister might try to ruin the wedding because of this huge crush [if that's even the right word] she has on me."
He suggested that the sister be involved in the wedding in some other way, but he didn't feel comfortable with her being the Maid of Honor and such a huge part of their wedding day.
Justified in his objection, or overreacting?
Despite the groom voicing his opinions, the bride wouldn't budge. The man then asked if she would be comfortable with the groom's brother being in the wedding party if he had previously made her feel uncomfortable.
The bride agreed that she wouldn't have been comfortable with that situation, and the groom was quick to point out the double standard of her statement.
With average engagements lasting 15 months, there was plenty of time to have these difficult conversations. Experts suggest having the tougher wedding conversations as early in the engagement as possible.
He went on to further say,
"My brother got kicked out of the wedding party for just my fiancee not liking him, while her sister can't get kicked out of it for [making me uncomfortable]."
What are your thoughts? Should the groom put his foot down and not allow the sister in the wedding party? Or should he just keep the past in the past and move forward despite what happened?
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