The father is asking strangers on the internet whether he was in the wrong.
The holidays are difficult in general, and with Thanksgiving just around the corner, Reddit is blowing up with people asking for advice on whether or not they're behaving appropriately.
In a viral Reddit post published on November 20th, a father is asking whether or not he was in the wrong for taking away a gift from his daughter because she wouldn't eat the food his new wife cooked.
The struggles of integrating multiple families.
The father begins the post by explaining that he has two children, a 14-year-old son and a 16-year-old daughter. He recently got married to his new wife Molly, who is a great cook and enjoys cooking for the man's family.
However, some tension has arisen after the man's daughter won't always eat Molly's food, and sometimes cooks dinner for herself.
Molly then confided in her new husband that it hurts her feelings that the daughter doesn't appreciate her cooking or eat her food every night.
The father confronted his daughter on this topic:
"I asked her to be more considerate and try to take a few bites here and there whenever Molly cooks to avoid conflict, as she's very sensitive. My daughter nodded, and I thought that was the end of it."
As you probably guessed, that wasn't the end of it.
The man then explains that he came home from a business dinner to find his new wife and daughter arguing.
His wife Molly said that the daughter wouldn't eat the dinner she cooked, and that she instead went to the kitchen to prepare her own food. The father told the daughter to eat some of her stepmom's cooking, and the daughter refused, saying she was old enough to not have to pretend to like food that she doesn't like.
"I told her she was acting rude and had her turn off the oven off and told her no cooking for her tonight. I asked her to go to her room and think about this encounter, then come back to talk. She started arguing, and that is when I punished her by taking away her Thanksgiving gift that her mom left with me."
The father explains that he and his ex-wife both paid for the Thanksgiving gift, and as soon as he took it away as punishment the daughter started crying, saying she didn't understand why her father was being so harsh.
A fitting punishment, or too severe?
The daughter then went to her room and called her grandparents, who contacted the man to say that he was being unreasonable and too harsh.
His in-laws also stated that the daughter was old enough to cook her own meals, and his new wife should get over herself and "stop picking on the daughter". The man refused to back down, and is sticking with his punishment.
"My daughter has been completely silent and refuses to come downstairs."
Readers were quick to say the father was in the wrong.
Following the call from his in-laws, the man went to Reddit to ask if he was in the wrong for giving the punishment that he did.
Internet users sided with the daughter overall. They agreed that the daughter was within her own right to cook her own food if she wanted to, and that it seemed the new wife was attempting to stick a wedge between the man and his daughter.
Other users pointed out that the daughter was in no way being unreasonable. She wasn't demanding that Molly cook certain foods for her, she was instead taking responsibility for herself to make her own meals. Many criticized Molly for her treatment of the daughter, stating that it seemed to be some sort of power play on the new wife's part to prove she was in charge.
What do you think? Should the 16-year-old daughter just eat the food her stepmother is making to protect her feelings? Or is the stepmother Molly just being a big bully?