Develop These 7 Character Traits to Become a Person Who Will Always Be Remembered

George J. Ziogas

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Do you enjoy making others laugh? Do you get fired up after a great conversation? Do you walk away from people, tuck their name into your memory log, and think about the ways in which you will make them your friend, colleague, or client?

We all encounter people we are drawn to, in whichever way that might be. But have you ever stopped to consider whether other people view you as that type of person? Are you the type of person who will always be remembered? If you aren’t sure or you already know you want to be that person, then let me highlight several character traits you can develop to become a person who will always be remembered.

1. Active Listening

Listening properly is one of the most important skills you can develop. Communication is key to succeeding in life and you can’t effectively communicate if you don’t first actively listen.

There’s a story from many years ago, one that’s not quite true, but it’s interesting and makes the point about listening perfectly. Betty Crocker offered a simple cake mix, just add water, bake it in the oven, and you have the perfect cake on your hands. As the story goes, though, it was too simple. The sales were flagging because homemakers felt guilty about taking such an easy way out.

The company took the feedback on board, added the need for water and real eggs and in response, their sales soared. The customers spoke and the company listened and solved their sales problem.

It’s a great story, even if there’s only a sliver of truth in it. What it highlights is the need to listen completely when others are speaking to you. There are two key qualities necessary to be a great listener — confidence and curiosity.

  • If you lack self-confidence, then there’s a good chance you’ll struggle with listening. Confident people are comfortable hearing differing opinions and they feel secure in allowing others to speak and share their stories.
  • Are you a curious person? Do you love evidence, science, reading, and digging into every subject possible? If you’re someone who does this then you’re likely the type of person to present logic, facts, and research as you try to sway the opinion of others. Yet, the person you’re speaking to isn’t interested. They don’t want to hear it. They don’t possess the same level of curiosity as you. Some people take trust your gut beyond what is acceptable. Curiosity is a necessary aspect of listening.

2. Sense of Humor

Laughter is often billed as the best medicine because laughter helps us deal with stress and find the funny side of serious situations. You might not want to be the class clown, but a great sense of humor can help you become a person who will always be remembered.

People enjoy spending time with witty people and they appreciate the fun and easy nature that they bring. That doesn’t mean you have to be funny constantly, it means you know when humor is an appropriate method of communication to deploy.

To develop it, you can start by stop taking everything so seriously.

3. Body Language

Have you ever been mid-conversation and realized, despite thinking it was going well, that your discussion partner’s eyes have glazed over. You were so into your spiel you didn’t notice when they checked out of the conversation, but they are checked out.

Have you ever built an incredible relationship and thought this is great, it’s going to last forever? Then, that person disappears with no explanation and you’re left wondering what’s going on.

As you reflect on situations like this what you realize is it wasn’t okay at any point. There were plenty of signs that things were going awry, you just weren’t paying attention to body language. Yes, the power of body language should be great, but it lacks the punch it should because so many people are poor in their body language reading skills.

If you want to understand motives, recognize behavior, and understand when someone is saying something they don’t believe, then you have to pay attention to their body language. Are they nodding along with what they say or is there a slight shake of their head? Are they smiling and laughing? Do they lean in and make eye contact? It’s a necessary part of your journey if you want to be a memorable person.

4. Self-Control

Do you have the ability to keep your emotions in check? Your emotions and your behavior can either help you achieve your goals or they can stand in your way. Whether your ultimate goal is to be the CEO or to be a person who will always be remembered, self-control has a role to play. It’s necessary and with the help of self-control, you can find balance, be restrained, and learn to maintain inner and external peace.

When your muscles are tense, your energy is flagging, and your heart is beating fast, your body is anxious and you need to take steps to get it under control before your emotions overcome you.

Of course, if you lack self-control, you might be a memorable person, but you certainly won’t be remembered in a positive light.

5. Confidence

Are you confident? Confidence makes people memorable because it’s one of those qualities that demands attention. It’s not something you’re born with, but it’s something that’s instantly noticeable. An easy smile and good eye contact are both strong displays of confidence. There’s another reason it’s memorable. Confidence is assuring. When people feel as though they’re dealing with someone confident, they believe in what that person tells them.

Just remember, there’s an incredibly fine line between confidence and arrogance.

6. Passionate & Proactive

Passion. It’s energy, it’s motivation, and it shows everyone that you’re a driven person. It doesn’t just make you memorable, it makes other people want to be around you. They want to work with you because they recognize your ambition and eagerness. Make your passion clear.

Proactive people have a way of getting noticed. They’re doers, they can work independently, while seamlessly slotting into a team. You’re capable of getting things done so obviously everyone will remember you.

7. Respect

Do you treat others how you would like to be treated? Or do you take it a step further and treat them how they would like to be treated? If you respect others just as you do yourself, then it carries you a long way. Humans crave love, they crave respect, and if you can offer them one of those things then you’re going to be a memorable person in their life.

Generations before have said respect is earned, but… that’s because they misunderstand respect. Respect is simply due regard for the rights, wishes, and feelings of others. That doesn’t mean kowtowing to people, it means showing others basic respect.

Final Thoughts

If you want to be a memorable person, then work on the seven character traits above and watch your reputation soar.

Remember, being a friendly, open-minded, approachable person can go an awful long way to building relationships and paving the road to success.

“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” — Maya Angelou

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