Girlie Men: 5 Ways America is Getting Weaker

Eugene Adams

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Girlie man used to be Arnold Schwarzenegger’s favorite insult. He has long since abandoned using the insult, which is a shame. It perfectly describes what America is slowly turning into; a bunch of girlie men.

What Is a Girlie Man?

When Arnold used the insult, he was using it to call people cowards. He used it to describe people who were scared of everything. Girlie Men are people who are too afraid to make a decision or take a position because they fear everything. 

Despite what the name sounds like, it has nothing to do with gender. Women can be cowardly, just like men. 

The good news is that this problem is fixable. Here are 5 ways America has become weaker and ways we can reverse the trend. 

1. We Are Afraid of Words

Somewhere along the way, we started to condition people to fear words. It started with safe spaces. We started to pretend that words were so powerful that you literally had to run and hide from ideas you don’t like. 

Next came cancel culture. Just cancel any ideas that scare you. 

To be clear, I am not talking about people who break the law. If someone breaks the law, they should go to jail. Sending people to jail makes cancel culture redundant. If they have done nothing illegal, don’t “cancel” them because their words scare you. 

Things have gotten so crazy that people are now trying to cancel books they have not ever read. Workers actually cried about Jordan Peterson’s next book because he is somehow so powerful that just his written words can harm people. I know this was in Canada, but many Americans supported the idea that Dr. Peterson's words were scary and shouldn’t be published.

How to Fix It

Sometimes words are mean and hurtful, mostly because some people are jerks. In situations like that, we should definitely acknowledge that the words hurt or offended us. We should also acknowledge that the person saying the words is a jerk. 

We should not try to ban words—we for darn sure shouldn’t run away from words and hide. Contrary to what people say, words can only hurt you if you let them. 

I know it is easier said than done, but you should not give someone so much power that their mere words can hurt you. Next time someone's words hurt, try telling them to F-off and then move on with your life. Don’t let words affect your life. 

2. Equality Of Outcome Without Equality of Effort

I know it is hard for some people to admit it, but effort and success are correlated. It is not a perfect correlation. Sometimes lazy people succeed, and hard workers don’t. However, the correlation is strong. The harder you work, the more likely you are to succeed. 

People like to complain about how much money billionaires have. But, Jeff Bezos and Bill Gates both started companies out of their garages. Do they deserve billions because of that? Probably not. But, let's not pretend everyone works equally hard. 

How to Fix It

I get it; life isn’t fair. Some people get more than they deserve, and some people get less. 

The fact of the matter is that no amount of whining about it will change anything. Only action changes things. So please redirect your energy away from whining about rich people and towards hard work. 

Hard work doesn’t guarantee success, but it does increase your chances. 

3. Participation Trophies

No, we didn’t all win. 

No winning is not the most important thing (not even close). 

That being said, competition is not bad for kids.

Having a goal and working hards towards it is something every kid should learn. Whether we like it or not, life is hard. Our kid's future bosses won’t give them a participation trophy just for showing up. 

We are not doing our youth a favor by trying to pretend there are no winners and losers. 

How to Fix It

Make it clear to your kid that you will love them the same win, lose, or draw. Then, push them to work hard and compete. Explain to them the importance of preparation and hard work. 

If it is tough, good. It’s better to work hard and fail now than when you are older and doing something more important. It’s better to miss out on a trophy now than miss out on a job opportunity later because you never learned how to compete. 

4. Fat Acceptance Movement

If you think beauty is in the eye of the beholder, you are right. 

If you think people who mock fat people are jerks, you are also right. 

If you think there is no correlation between obesity and certain diseases, you are lying to yourself. Being obese doesn’t guarantee health problems, but it does increase your risk for them.

In 2020 the Covid-19 Pandemic hit, and the whole world pretended to care about public health. It is impossible to talk about public health without talking about the obesity epidemic. 

Obesity has killed and will continue to kill more than Covid-19. Yet, for some reason, we will virtue signal about how much we care about Covid without mentioning anything about diet and exercise. 

How to Fix It

If you really want to be fat, go for it. We let people smoke, so there is no reason you can’t be fat. However, we don’t pretend smoking might be healthy for you, so let’s stop pretending obesity might be healthy. 

I understand that maintaining a healthy body weight doesn’t guarantee health. In the same way, not smoking doesn't guarantee you won't get lung cancer. However, diet, exercise, and sleep all decrease your chances of getting sick. 

So if we as a society are going to virtue signal about public health, we have to include diet, exercise, and sleep.

5. Learned Helplessness

Racism, money, the government, your parents, or something else probably make it darn near impossible for you to succeed. I get it; we all have some disadvantages that make life harder. 

If the world seems unfair, that is because it is. 

What are you going to do about it? 

The world isn’t going to magically become fairer just because you complain. Either do something to make things better or accept that things won’t change. 

How to Fix It

Stop feeling sorry for yourself and take action. 

Your hardships in life are not your fault. We all start somewhere different. Some people are born on third base, while others don’t even start in the stadium. 

But, it is your fault if you end life in the same place you started. 

Final Thought

The world is filled with crappy people who do and say crappy things. The world is also unfair. Sadly, no amount of complaining will change those things. 

As a country, we will be much better off if we do our best to toughen up and not let the bad parts of the world hold us back. 

Work hard, and face your fears. Don’t be a girlie man.

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