No talent is necessary to master these skills.
Skills. Everyone has them and they all take us to widely different places depending on how good or bad we are at them.
But out of the thousands of possible skills available to people, these are some of them that demand immediate respect from the people that can pull these off well. Learn how to use these skills effectively and you can earn the respect of anyone over time.
Best of all, they don’t require much skill to master them.
Being On Time
My dad is a master at this skill and it bugs him a lot when people don’t show up on time. There have been several scenarios where he’s been asked to show up at a certain place at a certain time and he arrived before the person who set the original appointment.
They always seem so shocked. It’s almost as if… he showed up on time.
And I’m not talking about being five minutes late here. I consider that kinda understandable. The people he’s been waiting on have typically been 20 or 30 minutes late.
You probably don’t care about earning the respect of my dad for showing up on time, but there are millions of other people that are like him. If you show up on time — or better yet earlier — the better.
Good Work Ethic
Another respectable skill is having an overall good work ethic. What that looks like to me boils down to someone who can get people to follow them through their work or is eager to get into the work.
This skill is something you build up over time as you work. The sort of principles you have and core values dictate how your work ethic forms.
People define a good work ethic as someone who is:
- Bears responsibility
- Maintains integrity
Putting In Effort
Even if you don’t have these skills, you can definitely be acquiring this one from the start. It’s a matter of trying and putting in the effort.
I’m a strong believer that you’re still making progress even if things aren’t changing that much. Furthermore, you’re still making progress if you’re at least showing up.
Every time you’re putting in effort to figure out something you’re stuck in, you’ll gain some new perspective over time.
As long as you are showing up — on time — and putting in the effort, people will respect that and will likely reach out to help in some way.
Or you know, be a total ass and try and stop you or criticize you. But hey, that’s part of life.
The point is, putting in effort in a lot of things will go a long way after a while. People like being around people who are out doing something rather than sitting around doing nothing.
Understanding Body Language
Being a sheltered individual for close to all of my teenage years, this was something I learned gradually as I spent more time around people. I was a very shy individual to the point that I found it nearly embarrassing to be speaking to cashiers.
I was a weird teen — way more than the average.
But even if you were spending a lot of time around people, adults can still get tripped up over body language. I can think of some dark examples where people certainly have issues understanding body language, but I’m not going to mention them.
The point is, those dark scenarios and even regular social engagements can be better for everyone when people understand body language.
Now would be a great time to learn to do this since people have to be more expressive in other parts of their body since people have to wear a mask.
Having Good Energy
Or just being a generally positive person. While this is one of the weaker respectible traits, it’s still a good thing to have. People will want to spend more time around you if you’re a positive person and inspire others around you.
The simple act of smiling and being an approachable individual will lead you to be likable and a chance to show off the various skills you possess.
This opportunity doesn’t tend to happen if you’re an off putting person or are always negative or harsh to others.
This follows the same idea of good energy. If you’ve got a good attitude about you, you’ll be able to effortlessly release good energy out to other people. A good attitude stems from your mindset.
Having strong passions for things is something everyone has, but not everyone is able to express them. They say the wealthiest place in the world is a graveyard because people held strong passions for projects or ideas that died along with them.
It’s dark, but it also shows just how much respect one can earn if they have a strong passion and have the courage to push forward with it. These kinds of journies are met with resistance, but also with many other people that push you forward and respect you. It’s worth the effort.
This is a word that’s tossed around a lot in the self improvement industry and a lot of people will say yes to it for the sake of it. Just like how we like to think of ourselves as great listeners, many of us aren’t actually that coachable despite us saying we are.
Having some guide you along sounds nice, but part of the coaching process is admitting that there is something about you that’s wrong. That you’re flawed.
Sure you want to fix it and that’s good. But people want to avoid the pain and admittance that they have a big flaw in their life at any cost.
Some people aren’t able to overcome that aspect. Hence if you’re able to overcome that initial thought process, you can get more respect. In this scenario it’s more respectable to admit that you’re flawed or don’t have the answers or could be wrong about something.
That’s what makes someone respectable. Not some person that is flawless or infallible in every way. Striving for that sort of idea is silly.
There is a lot of value in over-delivering on things when you get the opportunity to. It’s part of your work ethic, but can also be part of other aspects of your life.
Going above and beyond what’s expected of you in various scenarios is appreciated in most situations. People will respect you more for going out of your way to doing something extra that isn’t really necessary.
It reminds me of a quote from Maya Angelou:
I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.
Doing something extra — and it being a good thing — will make you more respectable.
Just like people love it when others show up on time, they also like people who are ready to go. All of this comes down to people’s time. If you’re already prepared and on time, people are going to respect you more since you’re not wasting their time.
At the same time, you’re also not wasting your time either by learning this skill and applying it. Develop a good system and stick to it the whole time and it’ll serve you well.
This system doesn’t have to be much at all. It’s a matter of knowing how much time everything takes in order to be prepared for whatever it is you’re doing.
All of these skills feed into one another. They are strong building blocks to build upon and require little to no effort on your part. If you’re struggling with getting respect, start by doing these things. You’ll find it easier to earn the trust and respect of those around you this way.