Your Peace May Require Going No Contact with Someone You Love
Are you stuck in a relationship that makes you miserable? Maybe that connection is with a romantic partner or a best friend. If you’re really unlucky, you may just have that kind of relationship with a family member.Read full story
It's Hard to Build a Healthy Relationship with Unhealthy Habits
A few weeks ago, a striking video went viral. In it, the girl detailed a life-changing piece of knowledge. “He’s not your type, he’s your pattern.” It was a revelation to millions. The pattern. So much of what we get right and what we get wrong in our relationships ties into our own patterns.Read full story
Why Are You Really Holding On to That Codependent Relationship?
Have you ever watched someone struggle in a toxic relationship? Ever wondered why they didn’t walk away? What about you? Have you ever questioned why you settled for someone who didn’t love you the same way? Ever asked why you always had to compromise or change, but your romantic partners did not?Read full story
Build Better Friendships with These 6 Rules All Amazing Friends Use
How are your friendships faring these days? Do you feel you’re surrounded by the right people? Or are you someone who wishes they had a few more genuine connections to enjoy? Our friends can be an important part of our happiness. More than just social connections, they provide us with a sense of safety and a sense of family in a crazy world.Read full story
You Have to Communicate Your Needs to Get Them Met By Others
When my clients come to me, most of them are frustrated. They're not getting what they want and they're not getting where they need to be. For so many of them, that begins in their romantic partnerships. They feel like their partners aren't being present or they aren't making an effort. When you ask them to quantify that, there's usually a common thread running through the foundation.Read full story
The Real Chaos Begins When the Romantic Affair Ends. Here's Why.
Affairs are complicated and devastating things. Created by emotionally uncertain or immature people, they can destroy families and create heartbreak that ripples through your life. These affairs aren’t just sordid. They are confusing and chaotic, validating and soul-destroying all in one.Read full story
Do the Toxic Men In Our Lives Come From the Toxic Mothers In Theirs?
We talk a lot about the toxic men that we settle for and marry our lives to. But where do they come from? As the old adage goes, they don’t come out of a cabbage patch. They are born from human beings. Sure, some of them grow into the abhorrent examples their father set for them…but what of the mothers involved in raising these toxic husbands and boyfriends?Read full story
The Surprising Link Between New Age Spirituality and Narcissistic Behavior
When the news about Teal Swan broke last year, many were surprised. How could such a spiritual person push their followers to such heinous places? It’s a question that got asked of NXIVM, of The People’s Temple. We ask ourselves this question every time a cult leader turns on their people to create violent, hopeless, and emotionally abusive environments.Read full story
This Is What Happens When You Surround Yourself with Toxic People
We all want to believe that the people around us are good and moral. There are layers to it. We want to see the best in the people who we love or respect. That is both for them and for ourselves.Read full story
Adversity Can Help You and Your Partner Build a Stronger Relationship
What do you think the greatest strength builder in a relationship is? Some will answer marriage. Others will answer children. But the truth is that struggle is the greatest generator of strength when we’re talking about romantic relationships. Facing tough times with our partners brings us closer together.Read full story
Taking Back Your Power From a Manipulative or Controlling Person
Most of the people who land here do so on the back of bad relationships and traumatic childhoods. Life hasn’t been kind to them, and they’ve learned to think poorly of themselves along the way. In many cases, this has created individuals who get trapped in toxic cycles with manipulative people. Low on themselves, they allow dangerous people in to pull their strings and coerce them.Read full story
Are You Addicted to Love? Pay Close Attention to These Telling Signs.
Are you a love addict? It’s estimated that 3% — 6% of adults are, which can cause them to slip into toxic relationship patterns that cause a lot of emotional destruction. Being a love addict isn’t easy. It feeds on unrealistic expectations of connection and can make it hard for those suffering to function (even to the point that they lose their job and all their friendships).Read full story
Can Mindfulness Really Restore Your Romantic Relationship?
It seems like everyone in the world is looking for relationship solutions. They want to know how to navigate conflict. They want to know how to communicate better, how to feel more connected, and how to achieve goals as a team. People want to know “how to do love” but the truth is that so many relationship goals center around one central skill: mindfulness.Read full story
What Is the Best Way to Let Go of a Painful Relationship?
It would be nice to think that our relationships always have a happy ending. That’s not the way life works, however. Connecting with another person is challenging, and building a life with them is even more so. It’s a balancing act. You have to hold space for yourself while holding space for someone else.Read full story
Your Emotionally Immature Parents Have Changed the Shape of Your Relationships
Being raised by emotionally immature changes the trajectory of your life and relationships. While many discount the experiences of childhood, the early bonds we build there do a lot to shape who we are, how we see the world, and how we’re able to create relationships in adulthood, too. When you get healthy examples, you lead a healthy life. When you get unhealthy examples…well, it can seriously derail everything that’s important to you.Read full story
How Good Are You At Spotting a Dark Triad Personality Online?
We live much of our lives in the online world. Social media has become a necessary part of daily life for many. In these spaces, we find our work, our friends, our families, and even the partners we marry and love. The digital sphere is entrenched in our society, the good and the bad. What does that mean for dark personality types?Read full story
What Are the Most Destructive Relationship Habits?
Relationship habits are the systems of behaviors and beliefs that dictate how we show up as intimate partners. There are good habits and bad habits. Most of us have learned, somewhere along the way, a certain level of each. We have good habits that bring us closer to our partners, and we have bad ones that push them away.Read full story
Was Your Ex Really a Narcissist? Or Were They Something Else?
It’s become fashionable to claim that your ex was a narcissist. You see it everywhere. Endless lists of grievances pointed at someone the victim claims is a “narcissist”. It’s a label that can get you a lot of pity, but it’s a label that has been wildly misused and (thus) misunderstood.Read full story
Narcissistic People Struggle to Form Healthy Relationships. This Is Why.
Narcissists are rarely content in their relationships. Ask them why and they will point their finger at the other person. They don’t do enough. They aren’t good enough. A narcissistic person will always blame their partners for the lack of fulfillment they feel, but the truth is that their bad relationship problems are rooted entirely in their own shortcomings.Read full story
Is Your Ex Still In Love With You? Look For These Telling Signs.
It can be hard to move on after a breakup. When we truly love someone, we love them forever. A piece of us remains in their hearts forever, and vice versa. For some, that leftover love is too much to leave behind.Read full story