The Bad Habit that’s Behind Your Mediocre Results

Dr. Christine Bradstreet

You're getting in your own way if you're doing this one thing.

Don’t jump too fast to answer this question, take a few moments to consider it.

Are you complaining about reaching your goals? You’ll be tempted to say no, but let me help you root out these hidden complaints that are blocking your best results.

You'll want to root them out and stop them because they’re a major factor in mediocre results in your life.

Complaining about your goals shows up in a sneaky way. It slips in the side door, and it sounds like this:

  • “Uggg, work is so stressful since I got that promotion.”
  • “Paying taxes sucks.”
  • “My daughter’s so strong willed!”

Notice, the words aren’t the same as shouting outright that you’re miserable since hitting your goals, but the message to the universe is the same. You're telling the universe how unhappy you are now that your wishes came true. Your confusing response to your goals then leads to mediocre results.

Work is stressful since your promotion? Take an inventory of the character traits and skills you need to handle the new role with more ease. Who do you have to grow to be to perform your role and responsibility with leadership and grace?

Paying taxes sucks? That means earning money sucks too. If you don’t want to pay taxes, stop earning money. People who earn money pay taxes. People who don't earn money don't. When you complain about paying taxes, you're telling the Universe you're unhappy about earning more money.

Your daughter is strong willed? That’s great! Were you hoping to raise a weak and timid mouse who can’t stand up for herself? Did you dream of a healthy, strong, and robust child? Complaining about her is giving the Universe a mixed message.

Your thoughts and beliefs are building your life.

Mixed messages lead to mixed results. The universe is going to help you every step of the way.

Desiring a goal and working toward it? Great, the universe helps bring you and your goal together. Complaining about the after effects of reaching your goal? The universe hears you, and it’s confused. Did you want that thing or didn’t you?

Stop and start, winning and losing, one step forward and one step back are the result. Does that sound familiar?

Make amends.

Spend some time quietly contemplating areas where you may be complaining about the goals you reached. Get honest. Have you been grateful for your success or complaining about it?

Think about something you've been complaining about. Is this really a goal you want to maintain? If no, then go ahead and release it. If yes, then find a way to not grumble about it.

You can reframe the situation to look at it from a different perspective. You can recruit help. You can grow your character and your skills to be better equipped. You can be happy and grateful for all the parts that are going great, and not focus on the few annoyances.

Your life is rich with blessings. Let the universe know you can handle even more awesomeness by correcting any complaints before they slip out.

If your cup is full, how can you receive more?

When you stress and complain, you're giving the signal that your cup is full. You're at your limit and you can't hold any more. Always eager to give you the answers you're looking for, the Universe will see to it that your goals begin to fail. Future goals will become elusive.

If you're feeling stressed, give yourself a break. Examine your life. What really needs to change, and where do you simply need an attitude adjustment? Stretch yourself, so you can accommodate even more good into your life.

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Dr. Christine Bradstreet is a renowned transformation specialist, an inspirational author, and a health and wellness expert. Through her teachings, people learn to create more of what they want in their lives - more health and wellness in their bodies, minds, and spirits. When she's not writing, she offers workshops and lectures, and she works individually with clients to promote healing in their lives. Visit her at


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