When is it your ego, and when is it your truth that's talking to you?
Hey there, I talk a lot about the inner voice, and I’ve shared a few stories about how it’s taken me to some pretty incredible places. Lately I’ve been meditating on a question several people have asked me.
“How do I know when it’s the inner voice of wisdom and guidance, and how do I know when it’s my human ego trying to call the shots?”
That’s a great question because both can pop up and sometimes at the same time. Often they contradict each other.
Here are some points I came up with. These are things that help me decipher if it’s my inner wisdom or my ego.
Here's a simple breakdown for you that I created:
It takes getting in touch with the subtle signals your emotions, body, mind, and soul can send you. And like all things spiritual, the more you try to figure it out with your human mind, the more distant the answer gets.
It’s best to get quiet about it. Let the answers come to you rather than hunting them down. Go through that checklist above and ask yourself which column feels predominately true for you.
We all have an inner guiding wisdom. Whether you’ve felt it or not, it’s in there.
“Your inner voice is the voice of divinity. To hear it, we need to be in solitude, even in crowded places.” — A. R. Rahman
You were created with this guiding voice, but you were also created with self will. The self will of the ego has been running your show. Not just your show, but my show, and every human show on this planet.
It takes deliberate listening to hear the inner voice, then it takes trust to follow it. Your inner voice is going to be drowned out by the voice of the human ego. That doesn’t mean the ego knows better or has more authority. Have you ever been in a meeding with a loud mouth? Their loud mouth doesn't mean they have the best answer, but they tend to get their way.
Your ego is like a loud mouth bully, but it can’t beat you up at the bicycle racks, so don’t be afraid to stand up to it. Better yet, ignore it.
Get quiet and welcome your inner voice into your life.
The inner voice is small, but it holds incredible power and wisdom (Remember, spiritual truths are usually the opposite of what our human minds think.)
It only takes a minute or two to touch base with your inner voice. It can sound something like this:
“Hey there Inner Voice, I’ve been pretty far removed lately, but I want to say I value you and I trust you. I know the pieces of my life fall together best when I listen to your guidance. I know you love me and your forces are always for the greatest good. I know with you there are no limitations. I’m open to all possibilities. So, please guide me. And because my human ego loves to step in and take things over, please speak to me loudly and clearly in a way I can best understand. Thank you!”
Take a few deep breaths and remain quiet for as long as feels right to you. Then go about your day. Don’t be surprised when an answer or an inspiration seems to “randomly” pop into your awareness later in the day.
Keep open the communication that’s going on deep in your core. When you start to feel chatter in your head, remind yourself it’s the voice of fear and the ego.
It gets easier.
If you haven’t been in the habit of listening to your inner voice, those listening muscles got weak. You’ll be surprised how quickly you can get them strong again. Being open to the possibility and a willingness to get quiet is all that’s required.
“That inner voice has both gentleness and clarity. So to get to authenticity, you really keep going down to the bone, to the honesty, and the inevitability of something.” — Meredith Monk
Remember, your ego has your ear all day. Dial it down once in a while and invite your inner voice to step forward. You'll be amazed where it takes you.
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