A couple of years ago, while I was observing my thought patterns, I noticed one that bugged me a lot:
I was always waiting for a future event to happen.
When I was at college, I was thinking about the upcoming break.
I was at the break, thinking about the upcoming weekend.
During that weekend, I was also somewhere else in my mind, on the upcoming trip or any other gathering in the future.
Hell, even when I was traveling I had the same issues. I was once in Portugal, walking across the beautiful streets of Lisbon. But I wasn’t enjoying them so much; I was thinking about a place where we would sit down and grab something to eat. And of course, when we would sit down, I would think about the upcoming night.
“Upcoming”… This word repeated way too many times.
I believe many of us have problems with the same thing— we always wait for something else to happen. We’re never totally fulfilled with the present. And when our dreams and plans become reality, we want something else.
There isn’t an issue with what are we doing, there’s an issue with how do we perceive the thing. One can spend time on a dream holiday and still not enjoying itself; somebody else can take sit on a bench in a park and be completely fulfilled. It’s all a matter of perspective. Your perspective.
If we always seek something else, we’ll never be fulfilled; no matter where we go, what we do, what we achieve. We’ll always want more. It doesn’t have to be better, just something different from the present. And that’s what our mind pattern is — escaping from the present. Resisting to the only thing that actually exists.
I suppose there’s nothing wrong if you think a couple of times about a nice time you’ll have on your upcoming vacation in a couple of weeks. But if you constantly spend time thinking about something in the future and waiting for the current situation to finish, that’s something to take a look at.
Can you recognize yourself? Do you maybe think about it right now? Do you see yourself somewhere else, acting like that moment will be something beautiful?
It won’t. When it happens, you’ll just wait for something else to happen. Observe your mind patterns, and you’ll see it’s true.
Live the only thing that actually exists
The future, like the past, doesn’t exist. It exists only in your mind, mostly in thought patterns that make you miserable. You feel bad about the past; you feel fear about the future. Those thought patterns take you over, and you identify yourself in them. You become your thoughts, and that’s making you anxious and depressed.
The past has already happened. There’s nothing you can do to change it. Going rationally through your past events and learning from them is something positive. Life is an experience, and you should learn from your every action. Investigate the actions and the results, see where’s a place for improvement. But do not let the past to judge your current state of being. If you’re just going through your past events and think how everything could have come up much better, depressed thoughts will arise.
The future is similar, but also kinda different. You can’t predict it, you can’t be 100 percent sure something will happen. You definitely won’t make something happen by purely thinking about it. You have to take the action — now.
Today, do things other people don’t do, so tomorrow you could do things other people won’t be able to.
By focusing on the present moment and your actions right now, you can drastically improve your chances of getting something you want in the future. That the only time when actions can be taken — right now. Anything else is just thinking and imagination.
You might have accomplished a lot of things you’ve dreamed about. Do they feel joyful like a dream, or you can’t see them because you always thrive for something else?
Focus on everything you have right now. A privilege to be alive is something so precious, yet so many people take it for granted.
You don’t need anything else to be fulfilled. You’ll just end up wanting something else when you get it.