Date Night - or Day - May Put Some Pizazz into Pandemic-Weary Relationships
CoupleH Articscoka (CC by 2.0) Many of us have all-but-forgotten the freedom to go out to a restaurant without regard to the status of the Covid virus or get together with friends without thinking about whether their comfort level with indoor settings is the same as ours. What about hiring a babysitter? Do you worry about their exposure to Covid?
Read full storyEight New Year's Resolutions That Can Strengthen Your Relationship
Consider the marriage vow you never took: When a pandemic comes in the future and you are required to be in quarantine with your partner and your future children (who will be home from school), do you accept that you will drive each other crazy and commit to summoning up your best self to ignore those small annoying habits that will make you cringe, and read all those articles on how to enhance your relationship that will have been building up on your nightstand?
Read full storyLearning to Manage Difficult Feelings May Help You Cope in a Challenging Time
Thinking it overgato-gato-gato (CC BY-NC-ND 2.0) The answer may be counterintuitive to many of you. We humans don’t like to be uncomfortable or in emotional pain. How many times have you been told, or tell yourself, “Buck up, don’t wallow, move on, don’t feel sorry for yourself, think of how many others have it worse than you?” Plenty, I’m sure. The conventional wisdom of our culture is full of “think positive thoughts.” The problem is that this wisdom doesn’t chart the path we need to follow to that end.
Read full storyTaking Steps to Recover From an Argument with Your Partner Can Save you Heartache
“It’s impossible for us to go on a simple shopping trip to buy a coffee maker without arguing.”. “Why does even a simple exchange have to be so tense. I don’t get it.”
Read full storySexual Style Differences and Sex-Negative Messages Can Contribute to Tension in Relationships
The thirty-something couple in my office, married for ten years with a young son, sit across from each other, tension and despair written on their faces. When I hear their story of sexual disconnection, it sounds all too familiar. Ben’s story is one of frustration that they only occasionally have sex. Sara’s story is also one of frustration because she’s at a loss as to how to fix this between them. They both agree that when they do engage in sex, the encounter itself goes well enough. Yet that doesn’t lead to another roll in the hay for quite some time.
Read full storyKnowing Your Partner's Love Language May Strengthen Your Relationship
"You don't feel I love you? How’s that possible? I tell you all the time how much I love you!" "Well, I'd feel loved if you ever wanted to spend time with me - but you're always off doing something else!"
Read full storyHow to Argue Less with Your Partner
Your cocktails arrive, you clink glasses, “Cheers to Friday night!” You hear your phone buzz. Rome visitEd Yourdan (CC by NC-SA 2.0) say to Jen, stepping away from the bar to take the call. When you return a minute or two later, you’re greeted by an icy stare.
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