Everybody I know wants an exciting, romantic, and emphatic relationship. Women often complain that their spouses do not understand them and are clueless about their feelings. I know! I’ve had the same experience.
Men want better relationships but don’t know where to begin. We are two people in a romance with differing personalities. From what I’ve read, people I know and even encountered myself, communication is the hardest hurdle to overcome in a relationship.
After searching and meditating on the matter, I came up with 3 unusual ways to insert a little fun and enthusiasm into your relationship.
Get ready, here we go!
We all know of or heard of foods that act as aphrodisiacs. Fruits, veggies, shellfish, and sweets can actually increase blood circulation and increase libido. This sounds great!
An oyster or ten followed by fruit and ending with my favorite, chocolate. An intriguing combination to spice up your love life.
- Oysters. For a testosterone lift, load your man’s plate with oysters. The zinc in these little hard shells helps men make more sperm. Then they travel at warp speed to deliver their precious package.
- Watermelon. Oooh, I love this idea. It turns out watermelon helps your stiff blood vessels to relax so your blood can flow. The amino acid citrulline morphs into arginine that works the same way as Viagra. Woohoo. I like to take out the seeds and blend watermelon chunks in the blender. It’s a refreshing drink with a powerful punch.
- Strawberries/Chocolate. This is my favorite combination of delectable delicacies. Strawberries dipped in chocolate. My mouth is watering right now. This fruity sweetness is high in vitamin C that increases sex drive and smooths your way into chocolate heaven. It helps your body release oxytocin also known as the love hormone. Sprinkle a black or white pepper for a gourmet touch.
- Chilies. Another one of my go-to foods for a hot night in the bedroom is chili peppers. They contain capsaicin, a substance that stimulates nerve endings, triggers the release of endorphins, and ramps up the heart rate. I crave those little green peppers in many forms. Pickled, fresh, diced, and sliced. I use crushed red pepper flakes in just about everything I eat.
2. Practice Empathy
Try to put yourself in your partner’s shoes. You may be surprised. Another activity we did together was role-playing. I pretended to be him and he pretended to be me. It was an eye-opening event!
We saw each other from a different perspective. Now, we had a starting point to work on ourselves in light of this new revelation. We had the opportunity to learn about and love ourselves in a better relationship as we tried the following activities.
- First thing, make a list of questions or statements that you would like to focus on. Flip a coin to see who is going to speak first. Sit across from each other, back straight, feet on the floor, and stare deeply into each other’s eyes. Then begin to act like and speak like how the other does. Keep a light-hearted attitude, and maybe, just maybe, you may learn a little something about yourself.
- Act out your role-playing. I mean get up and walk like them, talk like them, and gesture like them. You find yourself rolling on the floor from laughter. The Mayo Clinic is also big on laughing since it not only “lightens your load mentally, it actually induces physical changes in your body, stimulating organs and circulation and relaxing muscles.”Tension is released and your heart opens to let the sunshine of your love come in. (Korny, I know.)
3. Talk to One Another
Our lives are consumed with busyness. Going to and from work, running the kids or grandkids around, cleaning, appointments, the list goes on and on. Sometimes, it seems we are strangers passing each other in the dark, or glancing as we do fly-bys.
At the end of the day, we fall into bed, exhausted. It is especially harder the older we get. So how do we rectify this situation? Read on for more tips.
- Turn off all technological devices. Everything. Phones and T.V. included. Sit on the sofa or at the kitchen table, or even the bed. Move close to each other and hold hands. In a calm, soothing voice ask how their day has been. Did anything exciting happen? Try not to fake it. Be genuinely interested because they can tell if you’re not. Try it if only for a few minutes.
- Schedule some quality time together. Make it a date night. I know in this time of COVID-19 and lockdowns, it may be difficult to do. However, you can get creative. Get dressed up like you are going for an evening out. Admire each other’s attire and looks. Put on slow music and dance. Sway away to fulfillment, if you get my drift. Or just sit and look at the stars. Get creative. You can do it!
- Get acquainted with each other, again. Make a list of questions that you would like to know or that you kinda, but not so sure, know. For example, what is her favorite color? What is his favorite food? We change over time, as do our likes and dislikes.
My favorite used to be antique rose, the faded, frosted color of red. But now it is purple, lavender, lilac, etc. My favorite food used to be pizza, but now it is a medium rib-eye steak cooked in butter with a side of coconut shrimp. As I matured, so did my tastes in food. He may have no clue until you tell him.
So there you have it! My weird and wild ways to cleverly interject some fun undercover (or under the covers). I listed a few creative activities to shift your perspective, I hope. Finally, new lines of communication may open to help you to get over the hump or bump in your relationship.
Give it a try, shake things up, you may be erotically surprised.