Does a Mother Ever Stop Worrying about Her Children?

Debbie Centeno
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Worrying Senseless

I do not know what kind of mother I am. All I know is that my children are my world. If my children are sad, I am sad. When they are happy, I am happy. If they are ill, I hurt. I worry if they get sick; I worry if I do not hear from them for over two days. Whatever it may be, they and their feelings are a part of me. Not that I want it to be that way. It just is. Maybe it is because I have experienced the loss of a son. I do not know, or maybe it is just part of nature.

I know there are some parents who could not care less. Some neglect their children, abuse them, or have killed their children, as seen many times on the news. But not me. I want them to be happy, safe, and well always, and am sure I am not the only one.

Are All Moms Overprotective?

As a grieving Mom, I have emotions that seem a little over the top—overprotective probably—even though my children are adults. But when you have experienced the loss of one of your children, anything related to your surviving children will trigger the “worry” button. Not that I’m a worrier. I believe that when you have a problem, if you cannot fix it, there’s no need to worry about it. But, with my children, it is different. And that’s okay. Even though they might say, “Mom, you worry too much,” they will understand once they become parents.

A Wise Woman Once Told Me…

I will never forget something my mother-in-law once told me when I was pregnant with my first child. She said, “Once you have a child, you will never sleep an entire night in peace again.” I did not understand what she meant. “What are you talking about?” I thought. “I sleep so well that I could sleep through a thunderstorm.” Well, that was many years ago before I ever became a Mom. She was right. I do not regret, not for a minute, the sleepless nights I had because the most wonderful thing that happened to me in this life was becoming a Mom and I am thankful for that.

What Kind of Mother Am I?

I still do not know what kind of Mom I was or am, but I know my children are my world and I would not trade those moments — worries and all—for anything in this world.

What kind of mother are you?

Originally published at on December 13, 2018.

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My writing journey began as a way to cope with grief. I realized I enjoyed writing and began a blog, Debbie’s Reflection ( I also enjoy traveling. Therefore, as a traveler, I began another blog, Traveler Wows (, in which I share tips on places, landmarks, and reviews on airlines, hotels, and restaurants. Thank you for joining me on my writing journey.

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