Freedom and Responsibility
There are lots of ways that dating suffers when freedom and responsibility are not appropriately present. Here are a few of them. Sometimes, one person will give up her identity and lifestyle to keep a relationship together. Then, when her true feelings emerge, the other person doesn’t like who she is, having never been exposed to her real self. Heather, in the introductory illustration, had lost some of her freedom in this way.
Read full storyDating: How to Pass a Woman’s Tests
Women regularly test their men. Right from when a man meets a woman for the very first time through dating and marriage. So long as you’re in a relationship (or seeking one) women will constantly test you.
Read full storyBelieving That Self-Neglect Will Bring Love
Many internalizers subconsciously believe that neglecting oneself is a sign of being a good person. When self-absorbed parents make excessive claims on their children’s energy and attention, they teach them that self-sacrifice is the worthiest ideal—a message that internalizing children are likely to take very seriously. These children don’t realize that their self-sacrifice has been pushed to unhealthy levels due to their parents’ self-centeredness.
Read full storyHer Admiration and Attraction Work Together
Many men put a huge responsibility onto women. A tremendous one. They make women responsible for their happiness. They approach women with the mindset that if they were with her, then they would be happy. That in the meantime, they’re just kind of feeling neutral or unhappy. This same mindset is also present in most men’s relationships with women. They are needy and clingy. They become overly attached.
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