We live in a patriarchal system, clearly illustrated by the mounds upon mounds of cosmetic products, purses, high heel shoes, and fancy clothes that are thrown our way in an effort to "fix" us.
As if that's not already enough to deal with, we're also expected to get married and have kids by many men, and even risk very extreme reactions from partners if we say no to sex, at least in some cases.
1. MEN'S JUDGEMENTS DO NOT DEFINE YOU
A man's judgement does not define you.
Wear makeup or don't.
Get dressed up or don't.
Exercise for yourself, so that you're at your best.
Remember that you are a beautiful, hardworking, worthy, and intelligent human the next time a man speaks down to you.
If a man treats you like an idiot, that's a reflection on them: Not you.
He's probably just intimidated.
The only way he (might) stop is if you refuse to give him a reaction.
Remember to breathe and practice positive self-talk.
He will probably try to break you so that he can call you crazy. Don't give him the satisfaction!
2. IT'S OKAY TO SAY NO
Whether it's about sex, kids, marriage, or a promotion your male employee doesn't deserve in your eyes, it's about what you want and what you need.
You're always allowed to say no.
Your mental, physical, and emotional health come first.
3. YOU CAN EMBRACE YOUR FEMININITY IN SO MANY WAYS
You don't have to wear makeup, unless you're in a weird workplace that requires you to. You can present yourself in oh so many ways: Perhaps a stellar skincare routine and an intense exercise regimen will suffice.
You can embrace the gentler, feminine energy of life by getting enough sleep or going to the spa if you have the funds to.
You can wear whatever you want.
You don't need anything to be comfortable in your own skin except confidence and a positive mindset.
4. YOU DON'T NEED A MAN IN YOUR LIFE
There are so many narratives in America that women need to be rescued by a man who swoops in and saves the day.
If you want a man in your life, there's nothing wrong with that, but it's so important to know that you don't need one.
You can be happily single for as long as you want to be, even if that's forever.
Single-hood is total freedom, and it's perfectly fine to do what works for you.
5. YOU'RE WORTHY OF MONEY AND POWER
There are so many movies and books out there about "evil women who are in power."
The narrative is that we are not allowed to reach success without it corrupting us to the ends of the earth, but let's face it: That's just not the case.
We can choose how to use the money we earn and the power we have, regardless of the level we are at.
You are worthy of money, love, and happiness.
You are enough.
6. HOLD MEN ACCOUNTABLE
You can absolutely report someone for sexual harassment: Give him a warning. If he doesn't listen to it and change his behavior, report him.
If the shoe was on the other foot, you know he'd probably do the same thing to you, and it's extremely important that we don't let men get away with despicable behavior.
7. STOP ALLOWING EXTERNAL FACTORS TO DEFINE YOU
If your earnings are meager or you can't seem to attract the right man into your life, remember that it's important to trust The Order of the Universe, and that everything will ultimately work out the way it is supposed to: Maybe you're not ready to manage wealth or a husband right now, and that's okay.
Every area of your life will improve at the exact moment it is supposed to.
Being a woman can be challenging in a man's world, but it's essential to remember that it's your life: No one can diminish you or define your self worth unless you allow them to.